Happy husbands cheat, too

July 25, 10:12 PMInfidelity ExaminerRuth Houston

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Never think that if your husband is happy, or you have a good marriage that you are immune to infidelity.

One of the best-kept secrets about cheating husbands, infidelity and extramarital affairs is that happy husbands cheat, too.

Many people believe that happily married men don’t have extramarital affairs.

If you believe this myth, and your husband has an affair, it almost guarantees that you’ll be the last to know.

Research Proves Even Happy Husbands Cheat

This information may surprise you, but research has proven time and time again that a man’s happiness, or the quality of his marriage have no bearing on whether or not he’ll have an extramarital affair.

Not every husband who cheats is dissatisfied with his marriage or unhappy with his mate. You can see that from the two studies cited below.

? Early research done by the late Dr. Shirley Glass, often referred to as the “Godmother of infidelity research”, revealed that when a husband cheats, it doesn't mean he has problems in his marriage. Over half the cheating husbands in Dr. Glass’s landmark infidelity study, said they were happy with their wives.

? A study in the May 2008 Journal of Marriage and Family reported that despite couples describing their marriages as being “ pretty happy” or “very happy,” one spouse still had an extramarital affair. Two other studies published in prestigious medical journals in 2008 reported infidelity studies with similar results.

The research proves that happily married men do indeed cheat on their wives, and that even good marriages are susceptible to extramarital affairs. Unlike female infidelity, male infidelity is not related to unhappiness or dissatisfaction with the cheating husband’s marriage or his mate.

Yet people continue to perpetuate the myth that good marriages are immune to infidelity and happy husbands don’t have affairs.

What Does This Mean to You?

Continuing to believe that happy husbands don’t cheat will give you a false sense of security, and practically guarantee that if your husband ever cheats, you’ll probably be among the last to know.
50% to 70% of men cheat on their mates. Your husband could be one of these 38 to 53 million cheating men.

2/3 of the wives being cheated on have no idea their husbands are having an affair. You could be one of these 26 million unsuspecting wives, if you take it for granted that your husband and your marriage are immune to infidelity. Belief in this myth will make you oblivious to the telltale signs of infidelity.
Remember that infidelity can strike anyone, at any time.

Precautions You Can Take

Familiarize yourself with the early warning signs of infidelity. Many of them are subtle and easy to overlook. The future of your marriage could depend on your ability to spot the signs of infidelity in time. If you spot the telltale signs early enough you may be able to stop infidelity in its tracks.
The free tip sheet, “21 Ways to Spot a Cheating Mate,” will help you spot the signs of infidelity. For your free copy, e-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com  with 21 Ways –Xm in the subject line.