Be a supportive new daddy

July 8, 10:56 AMAtlanta New Dads ExaminerEric Skates

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Be supportive

Okay, you're going to be a father, a dad, a daddy, if you will, and now is certainly not a good time to panic. It does not matter if you have been planning for this moment or if it comes as a complete surprise because no matter how much you try to plan you can never be totally prepared for a child; neither financially or mentally.

You've got lots of time to get used to the idea, nine months to be exact, and just because you are not carrying the bundle of joy does not mean you cannot interact or be a stable figure during the pregnancy. Remember, that new life you helped create will be here before you know it to join your loving family.

Try and be supportive of your partner, as much as you can, during the pregnancy. Some women have a more difficult time than others, and the fluctuation of hormones can bring on everything from mood swings to memory loss. While you may not understand her moods, remember that they are not permanent. She may be irritated, but would appreciate a simple gesture like flowers, a foot rub, or even a bowl of her favorite ice cream without having to get up. You'll find your own paths, to solace, during her pregnancy.

When the baby arrives, don't be upset if you don't fall in love immediately. Everyone reacts differently after the birth of their child. You're excited to be a father, no doubt, but often men think they are failing in some respect, when they don't feel the same overwhelming bond that a mother does. You aren't a bad dad. The bond, sometimes, is not instantanous. So one of the best tips for a first-time dad, is to give yourself time. Depression also effects fathers, so be aware of your moods. Your baby is yours to love, and he or she will love you back.

Support is a huge part of parenting. Parenting isn't done alone, it's done together, with the two of you supporting each other, giving each other breaks from the routine and stresses, as well as taking pleasure in watching your child grow and thrive together.