Some very commonplace situations can lead a person into
unintentionally cheating on his or her mate.
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Some situations can be infidelity traps. They can lead a person into unintentionally cheating on his or her mate.
Below are 12 common place situations that can lead to infidelity.
If you want to stay faithful, don’t tempt fate. Avoid the 12 situations below.
Trap #1 - Regular online communication an online “friend”
Regular e-mails, IM’s or chat room conversations with an online friend of the opposite sex can build strong emotional bonds that progress to emotional infidelity, which is the stepping stone to sexual infidelity. The Sanford affair is a prime example of how easily this can occur. See What the Sanford Affair Can Teach Us About Emotional Infidelity
Trap #2 - Drugs or Alcohol
Many people have succumbed to infidelity because they were under the influence of drugs or alcohol which impaired their judgment, andr lowered their inhibitions.
Trap #3 - Flirting
Innocent flirting with someone of the opposite sex can get out of hand. Especially if one person finds the other sexually attractive.
Trap # 4 - Associating with others who are cheating on their mates.
Peer pressure can be very powerful. If there’s one lone “goody two shoes” among a group of a group of cheating friends, it won’t be long before that person is cheating too.
Trap #5 - Complaining about your marriage/ relationship or your mate.
This sends a message of availability, and can be misinterpreted that the complainer is open to having an affair.
Trap #6 - Socializing with an opposite sex workmate.
Hanging out with an opposite sex workmate during non-business hours is just asking for trouble if unless your spouse or significant other is present, or you’re part of a group.
Trap #7 - Putting oneself in compromising situations.
Stopping by your opposite sex friend’s apartment when you know the two of you will be there alone. Inviting a opposite sex workmate to stop by your hotel room of visiting their room on a business trip. These are just two many compromising situations that could lead to trouble. Why tempt fate?
Trap #8 - Fantasizing about sex with someone else.
Thoughts precede actions. Fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with another person allows the idea of infidelity to take root in one’s mind.
Trap #9 - Lunch and coffee breaks with the same person.
Having lunch or taking coffee breaks with the same opposite sex workmate every day paves the way for a workplace affair.
Trap #10 - Talking about sex.
Discussions of a sexual nature with someone of the opposite sex can arouse that person’s sexual interest in you, or make the other person think you have a sexual interest in them.
Trap #11 - Letting one’s marriage or relationship stagnate.
When the romance and passion fade in a marriage or relationship, both parties become vulnerable to an affair.
Trap #12- Window shopping on online dating sites.
Anyone who is married or in a committed relationship is asking for trouble by checking out online dating sites, just to see what they have to offer. Seeing what’s available can trick one into thinking that the grass is greener on the other side.
How to Keep from Cheating on Your Mate
For a free tip sheet with 28 easy-to-follow strategies that make it easy to avoid infidelity, and are guaranteed to help you stay faithful to your mate, send an e-mail to InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with “28 Ways to Stay Faithful - Xm” in the subject line.
*** © copyright 2010 Ruth Houston All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder ofwww.InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview Ruth Houston call 718 592-6029 or e-mail InfidelityExpert@gmail.com
For more information see:
How Good Men End Up Cheating on Their Mates
The Top 10 Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat
Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports
The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2010
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