Brooke Hundley's behavior raises questions every cheating man should ask about his mistress

October 23, 11:42 PMInfidelity ExaminerRuth Houston

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Steve Phillips' mistress, Brooke Hundley was out of control.
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The Steve Phillips - Brooke Hundley infidelity scandal should strike fear in the heart of every cheating man. 

It shows how little cheaters really know about the women they are cheating with, and how quickly the situation that seemed like a good thing, can escalate out of control.

If you’re a cheating man, or a man thinking about cheating, this article is directed to you.
It may make you think twice about having an affair.

If you’re the wife or girlfriend of a cheating man, or a woman who knows a cheating man with a mistress, kindly pass this information along to him.

Reading this may convince him to mend his cheating ways.

Why You Should Check Your Mistress Out

What you don’t know about your mistress could cost you your money, your marriage, job, your health, your reputation, and maybe even your life.

Look what happened to former NFL player Steve McNair.

Look at Steve Phillips, David Letterman, John Edwards – the list could go on and on.

If you’re like most cheating men, you don’t have any idea what your mistress is capable of doing, if you breakup with her, or if things should suddenly fail to go her way.

You were probably so intent on having sex with her that you never checked to see what kind of woman you’re dealing with. But I bet you’d never enter into a business deal with someone without first doing some type of background check.

If your mistress gets out of control, there’s no end to the chaos she can cause in your life

Like most cheating husbands or boyfriends, you probably know little or nothing about the woman you’re sleeping with. Did you even bother to run a simple online background check on her before you got involved?

In my 15 years of researching infidelity, and interviewing literally thousands of infidelity victims and cheaters -- both women and men - I’ve never once heard of any cheating husband or boyfriend doing a simple online background check before getting involved, or while he was having an affair.

There’s no excuse, because it’s easy and affordable to run a discreet ( and confidential) online background check on anyone from your own computer in the privacy of your office or home.

The $30 or $40 it costs you to check out the woman you’re sleeping with, (or intend to start sleeping with) could turn out to be the best investment you’ll ever make. For less than what it would cost you to wine and dine her, or rent a hotel room, you can find out the answers to the following questions about your mistress. What you learn about her may cause you to have second thoughts about the affair.

You’re the one with the most to lose.

Let me repeat: What you don’t know about your mistress could cost you your money, your marriage, your job, your health, your reputation, and maybe even your life.

Mistresses Have Ulterior Motives – What Are Hers?

Mistresses usually have ulterior motives. Don’t delude yourself into thinking that your mistress is with you solely because of your charm, your good looks, or your sexual skills.

Yes, it’s true that some mistresses are genuinely fond of their lovers. Some mistresses are even madly in love with the men they’re sleeping with. But most of them are expecting something in return. What is you mistress expecting from you?

How Much Do You REALLY Know About Your Mistress?

How well do you really know your mistress? What are her REAL motives for getting involved with you, knowing that you’re a married man – or that you’re already in a committed relationship? What are her expectations? And most importantly, what kind of reputation does she have?

• Where does she live? Does she rent, own or lease, or live with someone else who does?

• Is she married? Divorced? Separated? Dating? In a committed relationship?

• What is her financial situation? Has she ever filed for bankruptcy?

• If she’s financially strapped will she expect you to supplement her income or pay her bills? (Like Sahel Kazemi and Steve McNair)

• Is she a single parent with one or more children by other men?

• Will she attempt to get pregnant so she can collect child support from you for the next 18 years? (Like Rielle Hunter with John Edwards)

• Does she have a reputation for being a home wrecker?

• Is she a “gold digger with a history of hooking up with married men?

• Does she expect you to set her up as a “kept woman” so she’ll never have to work again?

• Is she hoping you’ll leave your wife and marry her so she can live happily ever after? (Like Rielle Hunter with John Edwards)

• If it’s a workplace affair, is she hoping you’ll help her get ahead or advance on the job?

• If things don’t work out, will she turn and charge you with sexual harassment, long after the fact?

• Or is she in it just for the fun and good times?

• Does she do drugs?

• Is she an alcoholic?

• Is she promiscuous? Does she have a reputation for sleeping around? Do you need to go get tested for HIV/AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease?

• Does she have a husband or boyfriend that she’s two-timing to be with you?

• Does she have a jealous or vindictive ex-lover waiting in the wings? (Like Stephanie Birkitt and David Letterman)

• Does she have a violent husband or boyfriend who might do you physical harm?

• Does she have an over protective father, brother or uncle who might assault you for taking advantage of his daughter, sister, niece?

• Does she have a spouse or significant other who is financially strapped and might attempt to extort money from you?

• Does she have close friends who have criminal backgrounds?

• Does she have a criminal background herself?

• Has she ever been arrested?

• Is she looking to get her “15 minutes of fame” through her association with you? ( Like Rielle Hunter with John Edwards)

• Is she immature? Mentally or emotionally unstable or fragile? Violent? Aggressive? Vindictive?

• If it’s companionship she’s after, how will she act when you can’t always be at her beck and call?

• Is she the type to go around bragging about the affair to all her friends?

• Does she keep a diary, a journal, or photos, or other mementos of the affair that someone could discover one day and use to blackmail you? (Like Stephanie Birkitt -David Letterman affair)

• If the things she expects don’t materialize, how is she likely to react?

• Is she the type to become homicidal or suicidal if things don’t go her way? Will you end up another casualty like Steve McNair?)

• If you end the affair, what will she do? How will she react?

• Will she try to ruin your reputation, blackmail you, destroy your marriage? Will she try to seek revenge? See article entitled More Women are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge.

• Will the safety of your wife, or your children be compromised when you try to end the affair?

A Background Check on Your Mistress May Help You Mend Your Cheating Ways

A simple online background check will help you answer most of these questions.
It behooves you to find out  the answers before it’s too late.

If you’re cheating, or thinking about cheating, running a background check on your mistress ( or your intended mistress) can benefit you in several ways:

1. If you’re contemplating having an affair, a discreet background check may give you second thoughts about cheating on your wife.

2. The results of a background check may strengthen your resolve to end your affair.

3. A background check may help you realize the affair is not worth the trouble it could cause.

4. If you’re already cheating, a background check can alert you of the need to put protective measures in place to ensure the safety of your family and yourself.

NOTE: For a reputable and affordably priced service that allows you to run a discreet and confidential online background check visit www.CheatingSpouseBackgroundCheck.com  

The more you know about your mistress, her background, her personality, and what her motives are, the better equipped you’ll be to extricate yourself from the situation with the least amount of damage to your marriage, your family your reputation, and your bank account.

If you don’t know the answers to these questions, you need to find out before it’s too late.

*** © copyright 2009 Ruth Houston

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog at http://infidelitynewsandviews.blogspot.com  .


For more information about cheating husbands, infidelity, checking out a mistress, revenge, and online background checks, see

Steve Phillips - Brooke Hundley Infidelity Scandal - a Warning to Cheating Husbands

What You Need to Know About Your Husband’s Mistress and Why

Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate (contains information on running a background check)

More Women are Resorting to Violent Acts of Revenge

How Betrayed Wives and Other Infidelity Victims Get Revenge on Their Cheating Mates

20 Problems a Workplace Romance Can Cause

David Letterman’s Fear of Blackmail Should Be a Lesson to Cheating Husbands