We’ve had two stories hit the news lately of Muslims in the United States brutally treating their wives. An Afghan diplomat “beat his wife like a dog for 15 hours” and a founder of a “positive Muslim TV station” beheaded his wife.
What strikes me, beyond the sheer madness of the behavior, is that these are accomplished men. If they were the equivalent on in-bred trailer trash, one might still condemn the act, but think that brutal lives leads to brutal behavior. No so in this case.
So what is the thought process? You need to register with Memri to view the video and read the transcript, so let me offer parts of it here.
Egyptian Cleric Galal Al-Khatib gave a “sermon” which aired on Al-Rahma TV on December 24, 2008.
Step 1 - Admonishment
"One of the husband's rights is to discipline his wife if she is disobedient. What does the word 'disobedience' mean? Disobedience is to leave the house without the husband's permission, to refuse to obey the husband in bed, to speak to the husband impolitely, or to do the opposite of what he likes. All these are forms of disobedience.
"Religious law has instated several measures of disciplining a disobedient wife. These measures must be followed consecutively. You cannot jump to the third measure before despairing of the second, and you cannot jump to the second before despairing of the first. The order must be followed.
"The first measure for reforming a disobedient wife is to admonish her. The husband should talk to her gently, reminding her of God, and reminding her that if she wants to enter Paradise, she must obey him. He must tell her that by pleasing her husband, she pleases God, and that his rights supersede the rights of her parents."
First, admonishing her for “bad behavior” is termed a “right.” That seems to impose a duty to enforce it. The standard is “disobedience,” which is applied rather loosely. Doing the opposite of what he “likes”?
Step 2 – Banishment
"Okay, if admonishing doesn’t work, the next measure is 'banishment.' Some say that the wife should be banished from his bed, while others say he should refrain from having sex with her, although I do not agree with the latter view, because having sex is one of the rights of the husband, so how can he discipline her by depriving himself of sex?
"It's enough if he refrains from smiling and saying nice things to her, and instead, he gives her the cold shoulder, but he has the right to have sex with her, even during banishment."
Thank you for being clear that sex must continue.
Step 3 – Beating
"Okay, he's tried admonishing, he's tried banishment – but nothing. Her emotions are numb, and she says: Good riddance. So what is the next measure? "...and beat them." Beating. The Prophet Muhammad said that the beatings should be light, and that one should avoid the face, or the sensitive areas, which might lead to broken bones, or might leave a mark that would spoil her beauty, whether on her face or anywhere on her body. Beatings that draw blood, or break bones, or leave a scar, a black mark on the skin, or any obvious mark, which would make people know that she was harshly beaten – this is forbidden.
"How should the beatings go? Maybe a light slap on her shoulder, or maybe a not-so-light pinch, or a kind of gentle shove. He should make her feel that he wants to reform her, and let her know that he is displeased with her. It is like saying: None of the measures that work with sensitive people work with you. A word would be enough for any wife with lofty morals, but with you, words do not help.
"Then he attempts a new direction, appealing to her femininity and emotions, by making her feel that he doesn't want her or love her. When this doesn't work, he says to her: With you, I have reached a stage which is only appropriate for inhumane people – the stage of beating.
"Beating is one of the punishments of religious law. What kind of people are beaten? Virgin adulterers, both men and women, are beaten as a means of discipline. Who else is beaten? A person who committed an offense and was sentenced by the judge to beatings. Who else is beaten? Someone who committed a crime. By beating his wife, the husband is saying: You've committed a grave sin that merits beatings."
The fallacy? Striking her at all is acceptable. Once the door is opened to “maybe a not-so-light pinch or a kind of gentle shove” then the 15-hour beatings quickly follow.
Try treating your women with more respect, and maybe we can get along a little better.
Comments
What else do you expect from barbarians who follow a barbaric cult except barbarianism.
Yes, tell it like it is! Religion is often the enemy of women's rights. Islam, the Catholic Church, and Orthodox Jews all have some similar versions of regarding women as less than men.
Yet Muslims are centuries behind. If you want a 14th-century caliphate, yield ground to Islamic extremists, and there are many -- TOO many.
I have met many muslims and while I can't say this about all of them, because the subject of women hasn't come up in all cases. I can say that with all who have talked on this subject they are afraid of women. They dispise women. And resent them.
Yet they are afraid of men too. They will kill their daughters who have been raped, but not approach the man or men who raped them. Much easier to exert manhood against a smaller weaker woman than to protect her.
Now somebody else, may have something different to say on this subject,OK. I just stated only what I know about all I have known who shared their views with me and drew one conclusion based on the questions I always asked about why do you not protect them? Not one ever told me he was a coward, but that his honor demanded that treatment of the women in his life. The cowardice was my conclusion as relates to their reasoning.
I beg to differ. These people are "the equivalent of in-bred trailer trash". And, brutal lives do lead to brutal behaviour. A spouse is not property to be thrown and broken in a display of infantile temper. The people in question apparently do not have the self control or a healthy self image necessary to maintain an adult relationship. I can't relate to a so-called man who would allow his idea of "honor" to dictate such disrespectful, dishonorable treatment of his life mate.
people, do you not understand? you are so ignorant as to the ways they have lived for centuries. 3 chances the husband gives the wife to change, after these steps, AND ONLY AFTER, is he allowed to beat her with a rod no bigger than a toothbrush, no more than 10 times, ONLY on the hands and feet and not in public! It is because of people like all you that Muslims are portrayed in a negative spotlight! Besides, it is none of your business what they do in their religion. Stick to your own or keep your ignorant mouths shut! They are in no way Barbarians! Read more into the Qur'an and you will find that it is littered with texts that say "honour, respect, love, protect and provide for your wife". But you don't care about those, do you? No, you are all too caught up in the media to see Islam for what it really is. I'm 16 and I'm fully aware that Islam has no affect on our society at all! I'm all for Allah and Muhammad (peace be upon him) I agree whole-heartedly with the practices of Islam!
HELL NO!
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