What do you think of you as a person? Do you like you or is there areas you despise and you label as bad parts? You might say, “I’m a good person but I hate my obsession with food because I eat too much.” Or, perhaps you are ashamed of the younger you because of past choices?
This thinking gives away your power; it energizes low self-esteem. And, while in this unhealthy cognitive mode, you begin compulsive behaviors like obsessing on your looks; this might surface anxieties about something you feel to be unattractive. When you continuously call yourself bad names, for example, you say you are fat, your mind will distort your self-view to fulfill this self-sabotaging prophecy. Individuals with low self-esteem try to gain their worth from the outside through failing relationships, over-achieving behavior or maybe even trying to be perfect. This is the recipe for an unhealthy, stressful life.
If someone is sick do you have compassion for this individual? If so, it’s time to extend this compassion to the parts of you that you need to help. Step into your shadows to soothe the monster in you because once you tap into this toxic place, you’ll find with a little love and attention, it is just a younger version of you, stuck and acting out to gain attention and fill a void.
Whether functional or not all of these parts make up the person whom you are right now. It serves you well to “accept” all of you. This includes the characteristics you consider good and those you think need work. It is time to pay special attention to the you, you most despise. Be curious, courageous and gentle with this dark side of you. Cherish this inner self because self-love gifts self-esteem and this fulfills your life from the inside out; it is the path to the healthy you.
If you feel a void within stop trying to fill this with something materialistic. Be curious of your feelings or lack there of. Be a bit psychoanalytic; think about what might of happened in the past that is affecting the here and now? Maybe you grew up poor and you are still trying to feed your inner child within. Embrace this child, free him or her, and watch the weight disappear. Self-love is the ultimate healing tool; give it a try.