Republican Rep. Steve Pearce of New Mexico might be rehashing the battle of the sexes and the “war on women” all at the same time with his memoir Just Fly the Plane, Stupid! that was published last month where he expresses his beliefs about how wives are supposed to submit to their husbands, according to a report that was posted in the Washington Post on Wednesday.
Pearce, who is a Vietnam veteran, explains in his book how families need to have a leadership structure in place where everyone has a role similar to the military setup. And once the Bible is introduced, the structure becomes the wife being obedient to her husband.
“The wife’s submission is not a matter of superior versus inferior; rather, it is self-imposed as a matter of obedience to the Lord and of love for her husband,” writes Pearce.
He emphasizes that in his view, submission does not mean inferiority. It means that husbands and wives have to play different roles in the relationship.
The wife still has a say in major decisions, but from a submissive position, which is no more than an employee making a suggestion to a boss.
And in the real world, the boss or the person who is in a position of power will ultimately have the final say, which to a point makes it seem as if conservatives and Christians like Pearce who buy into this female submission ideology are declaring that the best that a wife/woman can hope for is to be a non-glamorous, family lobbyist to her husband.
“The wife is to voluntarily submit, just as the husband is to lovingly lead and sacrifice,” writes Pearce citing the Bible.
“The husband’s part is to show up during the times of deep stress, take the leadership role and be accountable for the outcome, blaming no one else,” writes Pearce.
“It is unfortunate The Washington Post has ignored the facts and writes a headline the opposite of the story. The Post falsely and inaccurately mischaracterizes Pearce's comments. The chapter in his book discusses how the Pearce's manage their relationship and how they grappled with the bible's words. This was a piece of either sloppy journalism or willful intent to deceive. The words clearly written show that Pearce believes the phrase 'submission' is widely misunderstood in society and criticizes those who distort the bible to justify male dominance.”
But regardless of how Pearce, Hazelwood and many other Christians and conservatives try to spin or redefine the definition of the word “submission,” if one person has been genetically, ideologically and permanently ordained to be the leader as opposed to earning that responsibility through the results of their actions, it does become an issue of superior versus inferior based on the same old, rigged, patriarchal monarchy that it has always been with or without the Jesus stamp of approval.
There is no equality in submission, and there is no sharing of power in submission. It is where the recessive party yields its power over to dominance. If Pearce and Hazelwood are unhappy with that definition, then perhaps they should find another word.