Over the Christmas holiday I went home with my boyfriend to spend time with family. Luckily, we both come from the same place so it makes holidays much less stressful since we live across the country from loved ones.
From the time we met, my boyfriend and I not only wanted to get to know each other, but we took an interest in who is important to us. I had met and spent time with most of his family and friends, but there were a few people I hand’t gotten to meet. One of which was his grandmother on his father’s side. She is bound to a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. It’s a truly terrible disease. My boyfriend said, “She’’l have no idea who you are.” I said “I know, but still I’d like to meet her since she is someone who has been an important part of your life.”
So I went to the nursing home with his family, who brought an ice cream cake and some presents in honor of her birthday. Nana was silent. She expressed herself with sweet half smiles and through “headbutting” her children (touching foreheads, but referred to as that by his aunt). Cards were read and gifts were opened. Tons of cake was had by all. Although it was a little sad that Nana didn’t know who anyone was, the heartwarming thing was how much love was present in the room. What I learned is that so many things can be stripped of us in this life; our minds, our bodies, our ability to function normally, but the one thing no one can take away is love. No matter how far a mind may be gone, or how far we may have drifted from our true selves, we can always feel love. It’s a magical energy, one that can neither be created or destroyed - it just exists differently sometimes.