I have written many articles about the new normal and its place in dysfunction but today, I challenge you to analyze the dysfunction of your world deeper. My request of you is that you keep an open mind and you assess with honesty. Whether dysfunction is a symptom of something you are bringing to the table or someone else, it has a far-reaching wrath. Where does it come from?
In a recent Intervention and Prevention with Adults college course, an instructor, Dan Sagert, offered the following analogy to a class of future Mental Health Counselors. I am paraphrasing his message and, of course, blanketing it with my personal style. His talk was about how balance links to a client’s “normal”. I’m wording it as a necessity to gauge the line of normalcy.
Do you feel like something isn’t right, perhaps somewhere in your world, in some way there is an irregular rhythm; like a heart skipping a beat?
This life palpitation can be symptomatic of childhood heart murmurs. He explained that, as children, while our brains are developing, we learn through our heart. We absorb the echoes of this world as our line of normalcy, a place of balance. Think about those young, impressionable years, was the environment overall healthy for you or was it shadowed with chaos?
If you developed in an unhealthy environment, this world became your safe haven regardless if it was unsafe. It was what you knew to be normal; you developed in these circumstances; it was home.
If you were to gauge your normalcy against someone who grew up in a healthy environment, on a scale from 1 to 10, your balance might feel more at home at a dramatic 8 to 10 mark while the person who developed in a healthy environment might gauge at a 1 to 3 level.
Are you wondering what this means? Subconsciously, you may thrive in a world of chaos because it is what you are used to, it gifts balance in your heart. If it’s calm, to overcome your restlessness, you might inadvertently create turmoil. Compare this to a person whose normalcy mark is at a level 1 to 3 because he or she developed in an environment with minimal hardship, this individual is overwhelmed with just a bit of drama.
How do you suppose they two individuals get along?