Chronic pain? Yes, I do think it's very important to hit on this subject again, but in a different light this time. You see, way too many people that deal with several varieties of chronic pain constantly deal with a lack of understanding from others around them on a daily basis more than the general population realizes. Not only does a lack of understanding come from people who do not understand what its like to have chronic pain problems, but sadly you can also get disrespectful remarks and actions from those who have chronic pain problems as well. Why? Well lets discuss this problem. (Remember: Chronic pain is defined as something that can not be treated fully, thus the patient is constantly living with some level of pain. This level of pain varying from moderate to severe over a period of months, years, to most generally being lifelong as true chronic pain disorders.)
It has a lot to do with those who still do not understand that chronic pain comes in many forms. A lack of understanding that you just can not compare one disorder to the next as the same is a huge problem. Some disorders seem to get more of a negative lack of understanding than others. Some examples are chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, and neuropathic pain disorders of unknown origins.
I agree, you would think those with chronic pain disorders would stick together, but sadly there are a few out there that just lack the skills for empathetic support other than for their own problems, or just a pure and simple lack of understanding how different one disorder is to the next. At times, some even take it too a level of thinking they need to prove that their disorder is so much worse than the next person, they end up cutting down the other person because of what they want others to believe. But in reality and medically, you just can not put such factual information out there as all disorders act differently in each individual. It's not uncommon to hear such rude people complain themselves, that these other chronic pain sufferers are just complaining all the time. Not realizing that there may be a major reason. Such as feeling that they not being listened to when they need to know someone actually cares about them, feeling disrespected, invalidated and just plain not being heard. Sure, we shouldn't be putting out such immature, negative energy, but some sadly just don't seem to really care when they keep those lips flapping negatively, no matter how much it may hurt others.
Some studies suggest it has a lot to do with how these different chronic pain sufferers thinking process is brought about. It also has a lot to do with what other co-morbid disorders they may also have or not have should I say. Not all chronic pain sufferers have the same psychological disorders that are very common with chronic pain. Many chronic pain sufferers have both depression and anxiety disorders, but research has also noted that these different chronic pain sufferers tend to be more on the narcasistic side of thinking and generally have little to no problems with severe anxiety disorders as the later population does have (it has also been noted, that it seems those within this population of folks also have a more stronger attitude of the 'suck it up and deal with it' attitude than most do). As it is commonly known that severe anxiety disorders and depression together can make coping with chronic pain all the more challenging as well.
So what does one do when you hear from a loved one, friend or co-worker that your being lazy, your using your disabilities as an excuse not to do something, or your just not trying hard enough? Your best bet is to not give them your time or the little energy you have. It is not worth listening to someone who just doesn't understand you know your body better than anybody else. If they can not respect that as you do for others, walk away and ignore their obvious issues, as they do not deserve even a response to such hurtful and ignorant comments. Just keep in mind, its not you that has a problem when it comes down to such ignorant choices some people can make, it's the giver that obviously has something they must look within themselves and work on obviously!