Facebook may be guilty of many things but will it ruin a healthy marriage ? According to a recent study "improper use" translates into marital disaster. One wonders if "improper use" of just about anything wouldn't have potentially undesirable side effects.
What about improper use of the telephone? Improper use of clothing? Improper use of books, shoes, car keys...when does the user of these items not bear full responsibility for his or her actions?
Does Facebook force people to chat 'intimately'? Or, is that an absence of good judgment? Does Facebook force people to post pictures? Will Facebook addiction be the next drain of the healthcare industry?
A survey by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (insert lawyer joke of choice here) found that Facebook is cited as evidence in 66 percent of divorces in the United States. Also, more than 80 percent of divorce lawyers reported they “have seen an increase in the number of cases using social networking evidence” during the past few years.
Of course, a factor in this statistic could be blamed on the fact that hacking the Facebook account of a cheating spouse may be easier and cheaper than going the old fashioned route of hiring a private detective to follow your spouse around while lurking in bushes.
Could one argue that Facebook isn't causing more naughtiness, but is instead catching naughtiness more effectively?
The claim made by this study is that when people communicate with eachother frequently, feelings can become intimate- then all marital hell breaks loose. The more contact you have with one person, the more likely you are to fall madly in love with the person and BAM! game over for your marriage.
Does this happen to some people, sometimes? I'm certain it does. Does that mean that people are shopping for their next lover in their 'friends' folder? Sheesh, I hope not. Not to say that all my 'friends' aren't completely adorable people...it just wouldn't happen.
Facebook is a tool to connect people. What people do with their resources is a whole different ball of wax. It seems unfair to blame that poor Facebook kid with all of the worlds' evils.
Sources: Newswise, http://www.loyolamedicine.org/
Tracy Lynn Cook is a writer in Gilbert, Arizona. To read more, please visit her blog at www.TLCsThoughts.com, and follow her on twitter @TLCsThoughts.
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