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BDSM lifestyle and its benefits

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BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism and it refers to a variety of erotic practices, from restraint and role playing to dominance, submission and such. Unfortunately, the BDSM lifestyle is often misunderstood, not just by outsiders but also by those within the community. Also, there are different degrees of BDSM and while some people are into hard BDSM, others are into the soft side of this practice.

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There is even a BDSM culture and community where those who are passionate about this lifestyle can gather, share their experiences with other like-minded people and even find partners. For instance, some people are strictly the dominant side in a BDSM relationship (which can be purely sexual or romantic) and in that case they are looking for a submissive partner, while the submissive partner is usually looking for a master or a mistress with whom they can experiment this lifestyle.

It must be said that the practice of BDSM is relatively new as it has been around only for four decades – even so, many people still debate whether BDSM itself is only a form of erotic practice or if it is rather a sexual orientation. Before the term of BDSM was introduced, there were B&D (Bondage and Discipline) and S&M (Sadism and Masochism). The term is a very general one and it encompasses all the interpersonal relationships that take place between two or more people from the BDSM community.

The BDSM community is very complex and it encompasses a variety of people who have different fetishes or erotic fantasies – for instance, some people are cross-dressers who are interested in S&M practices, some of them are looking for sadistic dominance, others are passionate about rubber and latex and so on.

What all the erotic practices within the BDSM community have in common is that all the partners must consent to the practice, and this happens even in a relationship where one partner is submissive and the other one is dominant (the latter is usually the one who exerts sexual and physical control over the other one and it is more commonly known as the “top” or the active part). Those who are into hardcore BDSM typically agree upon a safe word that the submissive partner (also known as the “bottom” or the “passive” part) must say in order for the master/mistress to stop the erotic practice.

A Closer Look At The Benefits Of BDSM

When it comes to the benefits of BDSM, it must be said that most of them are mental rather than physical – while it is true that most people enjoy the sexual arousal they get while practicing sadism, masochism, bondage or discipline, others get off mentally when they exert power and control over other people.

At the same time, another notable benefit of BDSM is that it allows people with even the rarest or most awkward sexual fantasies to express themselves without fearing that they might be judged within the community. As mentioned above, the BDSM community is very versatile as it encompasses people with all sorts of fetishes, and here everybody can be whomever they want to be, no matter if they choose to be kinky or non-kinky.

It is not uncommon for people who practice BDSM to actually have stronger and more secure relationships, as opposed to those who keep their fantasies in the closet out of the fear of rejection. This has a logical explanation – when a person has an erotic fantasy that might be regarded as inappropriate by their life partners(such as cross-dressing, for instance), they tend to suppress it and this can take its toll on the relationship or marriage in the long haul. Some start out with the lifestyle by reading BDSM stories to familiarize themselves with what is expected.

However, if both of the partners practice BDSM and they are well-aware of each other’s fetishes and desires, then they no longer feel the need to hide themselves. They communicate freely and openly about everything, and this certainly helps them create a stronger bond, one that has more chances to last in the long run. BDSM can help people become more socially active, more extroverted and more open-minded when it comes to new experiences and not only.

It is not uncommon to see BDSM couples that have been in a submissive/dominant relationship for tens of years or even married couples who enjoy regular get-togethers with other members from the BDSM community. For most of them, this is more than just a way for them to express themselves and to satisfy their sexual fantasies – this is a lifestyle they enjoy to the fullest.

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