Well summer is officially over, and autumn is settling in the air. The smothering heat and humidity of D.C. has come to an end along with the fun of summer flings. And the brisk mornings and cool nights is a reminder that fall is here, and it is time to fall back- from a person, from an unhealthy relationship. There is always a pivotal moment when you are heading down the wrong path with the wrong person that forces you to realize that you need to fall back- stop communicating as much, stop seeing as much of each other, and ultimately redefining the nature of your interactions. Falling back is simply the process of doing the absolute most for a person to doing the bare minimum.
Everyone has been there… when the summer heat seems to melt logic away, and you just want to have fun. At the time, you don’t consider the costs or the risk- the risk of falling too deep for the wrong person. The dilemma is the same adage of doing what feels right versus what is actually right. The head and the heart are typically at odds. When you are younger, it is easier to go with the “you only live once/ go with your heart” decision every time. And then you grow up and have a few more experiences and learn that your heart doesn’t always have your best interest in mind.
With maturation, the desire should grow to do what is right over the futileness of what feels right. There is a much greater and lasting satisfaction with this process though it is often hard and cumbersome. And while there will be moments of self-doubt and uncertainty, they are fleeting in knowing you are doing the right thing…for you, for your future.
Like anything new, it takes a while to get to this point of wanting to do better, to be better. It takes even longer to act upon it. This process usually is not an overnight miracle. It takes time to go from texting and talking somebody several times a day to controlling your impulses to not reply as quickly and to press the ignore button when it is the only call you’ve wanted all day. No one said it would be easy, only necessary. Necessary for the person to realize your worth or for you to realize that person is not worth it. It can be necessary process to move forward within a stagnant relationship or help you realize you need to move on without that person. Either way, you win.
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