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Why I hate "that girl"

You see her on reality T.V.; you meet her in the bars. She is overly confident and wears a little too much makeup, her bust in your face. She rolls her eyes when you talk, and her jeans are a size too small. She is in her late twenties and finishing up her undergrad degree. She admits that she spent a little too much time partying and didn't start to get serious until now. She even lived in L.A. for a summer. Yeah, she is still single, because no one has been good enough yet.

That girl.

I hate that girl.

Around America there are thousands upon thousands of women who see themselves as such an asset that they treat those around them like dirt. They tend to be too much and too fake: makeup, tan, hair, heels, nails, laughter so high and loud it makes you glare in her direction. Normally my orbit doesn't bring me close to women like this, but yesterday I was talking to a male friend who is infatuated with one of these women, and everything he said blew my mind.

"Sometimes she is really cool, and other times she totally ignores me. Honestly, she isn't a good person," he said. "But when she does want to hang out, we click so well. So I am just biding my time until she comes around to me."

What?

Her behavior, which he described for more than 20 minutes, was unsurprisingly juvenile. She talked behind other girls' backs and played dumb when caught. She flirted with other guys in front of him, acting like she didn't know he was there. She pretended to have plans for the weekend, snubbing him in favor of studying for an exam that took place the following Friday.

I pulled these tricks plenty of times myself, but they stopped around the time I got my driver's license.

Why, oh why, is he OK with it?

"She is really hot, and she is used to guys hitting on her all the time, so she hasn't ever learned to be a good person. So sometimes she reverts to still being the hottest girl in high school."

Groan.

I gave him this little nugget of female knowledge: If you are a woman, most likely you get hit on all the time.

Most men will hit on pretty much anything. Unless a woman is morbidly obese, men stare all the time. They whistle, wink, make pathetic attempts at conversation at gas stations and offer to buy you drinks at a bar. Men finding you attractive isn't an excuse to be a jerk.

Now I am not recommending that you verbally assault the women I am describing, and I know there are plenty of men who are too big for their britches themselves. My point here is that these women give a bad name to all women. They are cocky, manipulative, rude and demeaning to nice guys who have good intentions.

If you are one of these women, take a step back and reign in the ego. If Kanye can do it, you can do it. If you are dating one of these women, don't put up with her games; demand to be treated well. Therapy is always helpful, for both of you. Obviously you are both a little warped.