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Singer Rihanna speaks of Domestic Violence and her assault by former boyfriend Chris Brown, in the latest issue of Glamour Magazine. Glamour Magazine chose her as one of their "Women of the year." Although the article does not go into depth about her experience of domestic violence or any treatment she may have received, she does openly discuss the shame and isolation she endured.
Rihanna stated that her family and friends were supportive, "...But at some point you are there alone. It’s a lonely place to be—no one can understand."
Many women who have suffered from domestic violence also feel that same sense of loss and loneliness. The shame women feel from choosing an abusive partner and feeling that they "allowed" it to happen can also contribute to not seeking help. Sometimes when women do reach out for support from their families or friends, they feel judged and retreat more.
Women who find themselves with abusive partners typically do not have media hounding them day and night after their abuse is reported to authorities. They also do not have the public scrutinizing their involvement and reactions.
One of the most painful difficulties of the disclosure, was the photo of her injuries that was leaked to the press. As she stated to Glamour, "It was humiliating; that is not a photo you would show to anybody. I felt completely taken advantage of. I felt like people were making it into a fun topic on the Internet, and it’s my life. I was disappointed, especially when I found out the photo was [supposedly leaked by] two women."
Most women, not in the public eye, have an opportunity to heal privately and can choose who they want to share their experience with. Often it takes time to understand the situation for themselves before they tell their story to others. While "going public" or being in a support group with other women who have suffered from domestic violence can be healing, it really needs to be under the control of the victim to choose what is right for her and when.
Unfortunately, for Rihanna that choice was not an option for her when it became public knowledge. Now she does have a choice and her thoughts are that, " The positive thing that has come out of my situation is that people can learn from that. I want to give as much insight as I can to young women, because I feel like I represent a voice that really isn’t heard. Now I can help speak for those women."
For Rihanna, hopefully the choice to help others heal is truly her choice and in her best interest, and not pushed upon her by her publicity team.
For more information on domestic violence : http://www.domesticviolence.org/common-myths/
http://http://www.ndvh.org/
For more articles: http://www.examiner.com/examiner/x-785-Relationship-Examiner~y2009m7d22-Relationships-in-the-news-Chris-Brown--issues-apology-to
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