
"The truth about our intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationship with ourselves." - James Hollis
1. Let go of the expectation that a person should be different than they are. Trying to control or change a person indicates that they aren’t whole and good as they are. No one responds favorably to judgment.
2. Resolve not to participate in making challenging situations worse. Step back from emotionally charged situations and come into balance before acting. The hurt self is not a good barometer of reality.
3. Actively listen to the other. Give the respect of your full presence and compassionate attention simply for the sake of being there.
4. Share your truth in a way that seeks to convey your heart. Nothing spoken from the place of heart will be the cause of injury, and will ultimately enhance life.
5. Love, peace and joy are always within us, even if we temporarily loose our understanding of how to access them. We were born whole and perfect. Unfolding the awareness of these inner states is a worthy life pursuit.
“It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are.” -e.e. cummings
“I love you more than I want you,” he said, setting her free to live life fully as he sets out on a long journey. “How is it for me to be fully my own friend, to be one that activates all of my capability to develop a soul level partnership that engages a partner to want me as much as he loves me,” she said. The answer is yet to come…we wait in patient expectation, listening to the peace inside, in trust, as we practice loosening the “grip of our mind.” - Welshons
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