To kill a lovebird

August 5, 8:59 PMLA Men's Relationship ExaminerD. Graham Curry

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When it’s gone; it’s gone for good. Innocence, life, and time are a few of those things that everyone knows; once they they’re lost, they’re lost forever. But what about love?  No, I’m not talking about love in general. I’m talking about the purity of love. I’m talking about the ability to look at the one you’re with through those rose colored glasses as if he/she can do nothing wrong. Once that has been stolen from someone, it can’t be replaced.

We always hear the phrase “a woman scorned.” But nobody ever talks about us guys. And the truth of the matter is we’re much worse off in the scorned department than women are.  And all of the ladies out there should be aware.

You see, as bad as it sounds, women get burned on a regular basis. And whether it is our society, or the simple differences between men and women; the fairer sex seems better equipped to deal with the disappointments that guys thrust their way. Men on the other hand, don’t deal well with being hurt.

A woman has a chance to bounce back from heartbreak.  A man will take out his frustration and pain on every other woman he ever dates. While women generally get sick of men over time, a man can go from jokester to jaded in less than 60 seconds.

Contrary to popular belief, not all of the jerks currently combing the dating scene were born that way. Many of them were nice normal guys who happened to run into the one woman that would ruin them for everyone else. Of course, most women think that this is a copout.  But that’s because they can’t relate.

In most relationships it’s usually difficult for a man to express his feelings – and that’s just when things are going well. When we’ve been hurt, try our best not to let the world know. Unfortunately, that hurt doesn’t go away just because we don’t cry on our bestfriend’s shoulder.  That hurt manifests itself in our actions.

Without the socially accpeted avenues of emotional outlet that women enjoy, that pain we feel often gets transformed into an uber-macho façade. And since I’m a guy and see no need for us to take responsibility for our own behavior I’d just like to say that you ladies have been warned! The guy who’s heart you break today might be the jerk your friend is dating tomorrow.