When Trust is Lost....Can You Regain It?

September 11, 7:38 AMRelationship ExaminerPatsy Rivera

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Having trust and faith in someone is vital to making any relationship last. When your trust is broken you feel so betrayed. You want to hate that person and just move on. However, sometimes things aren't that easy. Love can be a very complex thing. It has its ups and downs and can feel like the scariest roller coaster that you have ever been on. Sometimes, forgiveness can happen and trust can be regained. It won't be an easy, smooth road but with hard work - it can be achieved. So, where do you start? 

1. Start by asking yourself - what drew you to this person to begin with? What are the pros and cons of staying in the relationship and trying to work it out?
2. Have you discussed the issue yet with your partner? If you haven't, make sure to take time to relax and regain your composure so you can talk to them in a calm and civil manner. If you don't you will have a tendancy to say things you probably don't mean and often things that just can't be taken back.
3. Take a look at your relationships track record. Is this an isolated incident or is this a growing pattern?
4. If you decide to really work on the relationship then set realistic boundaries for the two of you. Remember, you're probably not going to be around the person 24 hours a day, so you have faith that they are following the boundaries the two of you have set together.
5. Put the past where it belongs - behind you. Constantly bringing up the past will only cause you more grief. You can't move forward until you have left the past behind you. Want to end a relationship quick? Then keep throwing up the past. It's a dead ringer for sure.
6. Allow some time for yourself. Sometimes you need time to just be alone and with your thoughts. You need time to scream, cry, or do whatever it is you need to do to make yourself feel better and to move ahead.

Rebuilding trust is a process that needs to be worked through. It will take a lot of dedication but if you are determined to succeed, it can happen.