Leadership strategies for women: how to speak up (Part 2)
In my signature women’s leadership development article, Show up, speak up, and step up, I write that being visible in the workplace is only half the battle. The other half is having a voice. In that article, I suggest that you speak up by making insightful and valuable recommendations that will move projects forward. In this article, I provide further insight on how to “speak up.”
1) Speak with confidence: In addition to your physical appearance, how you speak makes an impression. Therefore, you should use language that projects that you are a confident leader. The volume and tone of your voice should also convey that you are a leader. Don’t sound tentative when you speak. Instead, speak affirmatively and with authority. You should also limit your use of phrases like “I think” and “I feel.” If you’re in a meeting where others are dominating the discussion, don't always wait for everyone to finish speaking before you chime in; you may never get the opportunity. Be ready to politely, but firmly Interject.
2) Speak to influence: When you speak, don’t just speak for the sake of speaking; speak to influence. Always prepare before a meeting. Review the agenda and consider how you will substantively contribute to the discussion. Perhaps you will make recommendations to a project or ask questions that will clarify a point. You may even affirm someone else’s point of view or offer a different view point. Whatever your contribution is, be thoughtful about what you say and how you say it. In addition, understand that using too many words can kill the effectiveness of what you’re communicating. Use fewer words and get to the point. Remember, every word you speak will help to build your credibility before your peers.
3) Speak about your accomplishments: Many women miss out on leadership opportunities because they are uncomfortable with self-promotion. They think that self-promotion is bragging. But self-promoting and bragging are two different things. Bragging is ego driven; self-promotion is accomplishment driven. Find and/or create opportunities where you can update key stakeholders about your contribution to successful projects. For example, speak about your accomplishments during your performance evaluation with your manager or at a status update meeting. You may even find an opportunity to share in a memo that is widely distributed throughout your organization.
4) Know when not to speak: Just as important as speaking up, is knowing when to shut up. There are key moments when you should consider biting your tongue. For example, when your boss or a key stakeholder is speaking, you should not interrupt. Rather, wait until he or she is finished. Also, when you’re leading a meeting, don’t do all the talking. Spend a substantial amount of time listening as well.
These 4 (four) practical “speaking up” strategies will help you to project confidence and leadership.
In my next article, I will provide leadership strategies on how to “step up.”
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