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Getting ready for a future Mother's Day
OK the title is a little harsh, but why does Mother’s Day suck for the average Mom? It’s not because the day itself isn’t fun or laden with good intentions. It’s because we have to hustle to celebrate everyone else first, while fielding questions from the Husband prior about what it is we want. Gone are the years where the day was that of glorious appreciation. In fact, I remember my first few Mother’s Days when I was adorned with gifts and praise and love. The baby couldn’t do it, so the Hubby took over graciously and I appreciated it. The Grandmas kindly took the back seat and the work of the new mom was honored. 10 years into this gig and I get the “Well, you’re not my Mother” phrase, albeit jokingly, but I suppose a decade is enough to erase the fact that I did carry those 8-9 pounders for 9 months and more impressively delivered them and lived to tell about it! Now, apparently, they have “earned” the right to decide what it is to do for me on my special day.... scary.
Mother’s Day is this Sunday. If you are a like me, you are just getting it together and sending your own Mom her goodies in the mail and hoping they get there in time. It doesn’t take long to figure out what to get them (see my last article) but sometimes the good intentions of actually getting to the post office or UPS store in a timely manner is next to impossible. I don’t know how many times I have bought a gift, wrapped it, actually packaged it, only for it to remain on my dining room table far too long and end up arriving late.
I hope our Mom’s remember what it was like to juggle it all and don’t take offense to lateness. I don’t think they do. To those Mom’s out there who are not busy raising kids anymore remember schedules packed with activities that are non negotiable, rendering us helpless and half witted? These schedules run amuck! It’s not pretty to be the slave of small impatient people that force other important tasks to wait. Wait, I just described being a Mom. I just can't win!
I do love Mother’s Day, don’t get me wrong. I am a mother myself and I do like the attention; but I wonder if the stress of having to make sure your own Mother, your Husbands’ Mother and all iterations of “Mothers” in your lives are properly acknowledged is worth all the hassle? I know it may be easier for those who have their Mom’s in close proximity? Well, maybe not. I won’t go there, never mind. For those folks, I suppose on the actual Mother’s Day, you don’t get to relax at all. I guess we all make the ultimate sacrifice on Mother’s Day for the more senior Mom’s in our lives. One day we too will earn that privilege.
Although my cumulative Mom’s all live far away, I myself will be watching a children’s musical and then tearing down the set for said children’s musical on the one day of the year that is supposed to be dedicated to me, hmmm. I applaud the intentions of Mother’s Day, I really do. Maybe I should say I laugh in the face of it? Either way, it’s a pretty ironic Holiday that forces itself to be put on hold for any other event that interferes with it.
Let’s face it, Mother’s Day is less about the day itself and more about the club that we are entitled to say we belong to. As Mom’s, we usually come last anyway and Mother’s Day is no exception.
I fantasize of one day having grown up, non arguing children, who just want to go out and relax with me and act like adults (without Dad glaring at them to do so) on Mother’s Day. Maybe they will foot the bill for a great afternoon out? Wouldn't that be nice? In the meantime, I will take what I can in the way of hand print cards and homemade gifts all full of love, with one end goal in mind. They just want to make sure they know I am loved. I suppose that is enough for any Mom worth celebrating, now isn’t it?
email Melonie @ svmomblog@yahoo.com
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