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What Moms really want for Mother's Day - The simple version
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With Mother’s Day quickly approaching I started thinking about what it is we Mom’s REALLY want. Every year about this time I get asked, “What do you want for Mother’s Day?”. It’s usually something pretty darn simple and inexpensive. It always seems to be a disappointment to my husband. He seems confused, but it’s getting the simple things most the time that make us Moms happiest. Luckily, my Husband knows that asking is the best way to insure a happy Mommy.
Many Moms out there, especially those with little ones don't want just things. What they want, what they need is a little “me” time. Call it selfish, call it boring, but time is golden and they don’t get much of it right now.
When my kids were little I would simply say, fix me breakfast, and then let me escape for the day. Typically, I would head out for a much needed manicure and pedicure and then follow it but doing some non-rushed, non-whine infiltrated shopping. Simple needs for a busy time. I usually only needed 3-4 hours to regain sanity. Some time with nobody hanging on you, relying on you and expecting things from you is a gift. You can’t put a price tag on “me” time.
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the home made cards, flowers and goodies. Hand prints are sweet and worth a million dollars especially later when your kid’s hands are as big as your own. Don’t forget those little touches, they do mean a lot. I look back at some of my cards and mementos from when my oldest was little and it drives home the point that they really do grow fast.
As for Moms with older kids and Moms with their own Moms to take out, do just that. Get out, have fun and enjoy the day. If your Mom can’t go out and antique or shop or see a movie with you, have the Hubby take the kids out and leave you two to have coffee or play scrabble in piece. Maybe even take the opportunity to take a walk with your Mom and just re-connect.
If your Mom is far away like mine, look for something meaningful that they would not buy themselves. I once bought my Mom Birkenstock gardening clogs and it was one of her favorite gifts for a long time! My Mother in law is retired and enjoys going out to eat, but likes to stick to her budget. I like to send her gift cards for things like restaurants and stores so she can have a guilt free day for herself. All of my “Moms” are far so they each get care packages with stuff that I know they will enjoy.
The trick is to think about Mom and try to find what it is that they deprive themselves of and give it to them. We Moms tend to put ourselves last. When we want a new purse or need to get a manicure, we take the car to the car wash and pick up the dry cleaning instead. When we need to get our hair done and continue to wear the same ratty sweats, we pick up the kids some new clothes and get the dog groomed. You get the point.
Mother’s day is about one thing, putting Mom first. If everyone can do that for one day and do it thoughtfully, it will be wonderful and unforgettable, trust me!
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Melonie and her daughters
email Melonie @ svmomblog@yahoo.com
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