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“You can trust me.”
This phrase is a commonplace utterance used by everyone from loyal lovers, cheating spouses, politicians, your mother, your car mechanic, God, and 14 year-old boys attempting to deflower their first virgin. Trust, for most people, is the sole condition under which they determine to resume their current ties with another person. Without 100 percent trust in a person, any thought of marriage, children, or romance tend to go out the window.
Certainly, trust is the prodigious essence that either makes or breaks unions across the continents, but just as such high assessment is placed so frivolously upon such fluctuating an entity as romance, just how much guarantee is too much when it comes to trust in the opposite sex?
My position on the topic of relationships is probably fairly apparent by now; I consider us human beings first and foremost– imperfect, at times impulsive, flawed, sometimes hedonistic creatures. Next, come the warm and fuzzy titles: doting husband, loving wife, nurturing mother, humanitarian. Yet, when it comes right down to it, aren’t we all just a complex network of neurological wiring - emotionally vacillating, ever changing, and complicated?
Given this study of human beings over time, we all know to a certain degree that our breed is capable of everything from conceiving babies to the most scientifically advanced miracles, like sending a man to the moon. Adversely, there are those within our own kind who commit such ethically immoral acts from breaking their vows to being cold-blooded killers. Yet in our relationships, it seems a Spartan question to ask someone with whom we are involved if they trust us – as if we deserve such an honor.
O.K., I am slightly exaggerating the comparisons (if you haven’t figured out my style already), but my point is that people place such emphasis on an intangible quality that can never be indubitable. My friends and I often disagree on this subject, as many of them are married and can attest to having “complete faith” in their spouse. They argue that unless the trust is there in its entirety, marriage has no place.
A valid point and perfectly understandable. However, I opt for the biological and historical reflection of people’s nature throughout time. Trust has never ended wars, built empires or created colonies. My belief is that people should stop saying “I promise this” and “You can trust that”, and just stick to the simplicity and integrity of an “I will try my damndest”.
Undoubtedly, I have complete faith that my boyfriend will do his absolute best in making me happy. My trust in him teeters closely to 100 percent, and I believe that I am loved to no end. But, knowing as much as I do about the carnal switch that can occur in somebody like night and day, like I read in the news every morning, can I say it wouldn’t surprise me for a person to do a complete 180 in terms of their relationship? Absolutely.
When it comes to trusting another person 110 percent, I believe it is important to apply that old proverb that refers to being given advice, and take it with a grain of salt.
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