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Does Monogamy Have to Become Monotony?
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What'll it be tonight? Dinner and a movie...again?" - Photo provided by Googl
After being with her beau for close to eight years, a friend of mine recently grumbled that her relationship has become one perpetual cycle of the everlasting dinner-and-a-movie combo. She complained that, although she loves her boyfriend very much, she can’t help but think to herself: “Is this all there is?”
Admittedly, I have never been in one relationship for almost a decade (less my friendships), so I can’t begin to imagine how monotonous the routine must get after a while. I believe that is why it is imperative that the love between two people has got to be as strong as steel; because I think it is an unfortunate verity that, unless money grows on trees in your parts, eventually you hit a place where it seems you run out of things to do.
My father told me once that the best way to know whether you truly love somebody is not what you do when you are out together, but what you don’t do together – how you feel about the person even when you are in a somewhat more boring atmosphere. He believes that if enjoyment to you means doing absolutely nothing with the person you love, then that is true love’s true test.
Although he does have a point, I also think that it is important to keep the “new” aspect of your bond tough by saving time and just a little bit of money, and traveling together, even if only for a weekend getaway. Leaving home – even just to a place a couple of hours away - in many experts’ opinions is a refreshing way to bring a new ambiance, and new activities to your agenda. First, simply packing for a trip will get you geared for your escape, as planning cute outfits or lingerie to surprise him in will be reminiscent of your honeymoon or the first time you traveled together. Next, posting up in a hotel room will give you an escape from your bills, your household chores, your cat, whatever it is that weighs its lackluster manifestation upon you at home. Not only that, but being in a new city will force you to check out some innovative eateries and remind you of when you first dated. Also, going back to a hotel room where the clean-up isn’t your problem, will allow you to let loose a bit more, and let loose with each other.
If a weekend escape is not in your budget, go to your state’s tourism Website and you’ll be surprised at the interesting endeavors hiding all throughout your area. Be it museums, plays, pet adoptions or gun shows – whatever floats your boat - go out and explore them together. Even if your new pursuit turns out to be a corny one, it will be something you can both laugh at and remember forever.
Most importantly, keep in mind that whatever it is you find to do together, it is about creating memories. Think about what has kept your friendships strong all these years, and apply that same mindset to the union you have with your loved one.
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