Parenting Tip of the Day: Ask why

February 17, 5:14 PMParenting ExaminerTerreece Clarke

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"Mom, can I use the jigsaw?"

The cool thing about parenting is it evolves and grows just as our children do. One thing to try with your kids that may lead to both some interesting conversations and opportunities for growth and learning is simply to ask "Why?"

When your teen is upset about not being allowed to do something, ask them, "Why do you think I won't let you go?" Be prepared for a warped perspective on your own thinking and reasoning, but follow up with "Why am I wrong?"

You may find out your kids have a "They're out to get me" belief about your parenting choices, but you may also learn the reasons why they are interested in what they are interested in. This creates an opportunity for you both to be heard and understood, even if don't agree.

In younger children, it teaches them to think analytically about cause and effect, relationships and gives you greater insight into how their little brains work.

So try turning the tables on the kids and ask "Why?"