‘Nice’ girls love ‘naughty’ sex (so do ‘nice’ guys)

September 6, 11:46 AMRelationship ExaminerKristen Houghton

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 “In public, act the part of his proper wife, in the bedroom, play the role of his naughty girl .”

                                                                                               Victorian Adage, anonymous

Let’s be real; all “good girls” (and guys) have “bad” sex and love it! You can be as glacially cool as the immortal icon of the 1950’s Grace Kelly, in public, but you act like an insatiable, adventurous, 1980’s Madonna in private. The outside you is nothing at all like the “you” in the bedroom or anywhere else you fulfill your sexual desires.

And guess what? You’re not alone. Seemingly demure, “proper” couples are being very, very naughty and having a hell of a great time!  

Sex has always been an area of hot contention. In the not too distant past, religious edicts on what was and wasn’t “acceptable,” medical dictates of how sex could adversely “affect” your health gave misguided and totally farfetched “rules.” Remember we’re talking about “experts” who once claimed horrid things would happen to you if you masturbated or indulged in unsavory practices such as oral sex!

But the reality check is that the majority of people in past generations paid as little mind to what was said as we would today. What you do in private is nobody’s business but yours.

Sexual adventures are some of the best adventures you can have. The woman who opens herself up,  (no pun intended here), to new and exciting sex is the woman who has given herself the key to erotic pleasuring for life. What a gift to yourself and your lucky partner!

The key to indulging your erotic fantasies is twofold – a partner willing and eager to go on these adventures with you and a bond of unbreakable, absolute trust you have with each other. After that the sky’s the limit as far as sex goes.

Nothing between two consenting adult partners should be off-limits. The realization that you have complete sexual freedom together is an aphrodisiac all by itself. The small group of women and men I interviewed during a seminar on sexuality and love agreed whole-heartedly.

“There are things I’ve done that I’ve never discussed with anyone before. Let’s just say that as far as sex goes, I have experienced it all,” says a woman I interviewed. “No one looking at me would even begin to think of what I’ve enjoyed. And I like talking about it before hand. Two adults agreeing on what is going to happen is a real turn-on.”

“Bad sex is definitely for so-called good girls! Why would anyone think otherwise?” said another woman. “My sensual side is very strong and I am lucky to be able to express it.” Her partner agreed. “The sexual side of a relationship is a very important one. There is nothing “bad” about it at all. Great sex is a complement to a great partnership. Our relationships isn't just sex, but that is a healthy part of it.”

“Trust is something that is implicit in a sexual relationship,” agreed a woman and her husband.” We wouldn’t try certain things if we weren’t sure the other partner would know when enough was enough.”

Her husband added, “But we do know how far to go and we have a sex life that others would envy if they knew.”

Sex games, sex toys, new adventures, all are included in today’s erotic lexicon and practices. As the man said, there’s nothing bad about great sex. Experiment, indulge, explore and enjoy.

There’s something so erotically appealing about the nice and naughty aspect of it all, isn’t there?

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