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Sandra Bullock - the key to happiness is being 'selfish.' She's right!
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Actor Sandra Bullock says she 'always puts herself first and doesn't worry what anyone else thinks.'
'I never did anything according to what anyone else wanted. That's why I think I am happy. I have to fight every single day to live my true life.'
Well said!
Bullock goes on to say that she always speak her mind because she doesn't want to get taken advantage of by others.
'I don't ever want to come home saying, I should have spoken my mind. I shouldn't have let someone say something that I didn't feel was right.'
What the talented and much in-demand actor is doing is practicing 'self-NESS,' a good kind of 'selfish' which helps you to nurture yourself and achieve your goals. You need to be happy and satisfied with your own self before attempting any kind of relationship with another person. Becoming the person you want to be is a necessity.
During my seminars dealing with happiness and living sucessfully, I tell women that one of the essential keys to happiness is living life on your own terms. That isn't as difficult as it sounds. Once you realize that by allowing yourself to live according to a set of rules dictated by someone else, you are also allowing unhappiness and frustration to be a daily constant in your life, it becomes a no-brainer. A healthy dose of 'selfishness' is required to be happy. You need to be satisfied to satisfy yourself first.
Living successfully is living the way you choose. The impact that you make on your self-esteem when you do this is vital to your sense of self and emotional health. Not everyone will understand, or even agree with, your decision to take time to nurture yourself, put your happiness first, and live your life by your own rules. That shouldn't matter to you. Be assured though that they will respect and admire you, even if it is done grudgingly.
The author Ayn Rand knew that for her happiness meant living for yourself.She said,
“I do not recognize anyone's right to one minute of my life.... "
Your life is your own. Make it a good one; healthy, successful, and happy.
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