Ladies, do you want to dance?

July 9, 12:18 AMSF Dating ExaminerAnnie Gleason

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This is the secret to receiving more invitations to dance: Make it easy for a man to ask. You don’t need to be the most attractive woman or the best dancer in the room. Guys tend to gravitate towards women who are friendly and approachable. Here are six easy ways to attract more dance invitations.

1) Dress for dancing: Wear clothes that he won’t get his hands tangled in. Eschew floaty tops, dangling scarves, jackets, or fabrics that don't breathe. Don low to medium heeled shoes with leather soles so that you move easily on the dance floor. Your jewelry should be minimal, so that it won't catch on clothing or get in his way.

2) As you enter the dance venue, smile and say “hi” to as many men as you can. Continue until you go home. It doesn’t matter whether you know him--you will create an aura of being flirtatious and amiable. Even guys who you don’t talk with will feel more comfortable asking you to dance.

3) Tell your girlfriends that you’ll see them later, and stand by yourself. Most men will be more likely to ask you to dance if you’re not absorbed in a conversation. Move slowly around the edge of the dance floor. Men who want to dance will stand nearby—those who don’t will go elsewhere. Smile and say "hi" to some of them, while you keep moving.

4) Take advantage of dance traffic patterns. As you circulate, keep an eye out for the areas where most of the dancers walk onto the dance floor. When the music changes, you will see a flow of people in one or two areas. Often this will be the two front corners of the dance floor. This is where you want to be when the music changes. As men leave the dance floor, you will be seen as someone who is available to dance.

5) Body Language: Smile, and gently move your body to the music while you enjoy watching dancers. Don't look at men while you are waiting to get asked to dance, as this signals desperation. If you hold your arms at waist level, while keeping your hands empty, you’ll appear ready to dance.

6) Most men love being asked to dance. To minimize the risk of being turned down, ask someone who is standing near the dance floor. He’ll probably accept. Perhaps he’ll say, “Later.” Maybe he’ll find you later on—or not. If he doesn’t, don’t take it personally, just say “next!”

If you utilize these tips, you’ll probably find yourself invited to dance as much as you’d like.

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