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Dear Annie, I find that the Bay Area, especially San Francisco, is an extremely difficult place to meet eligible men. I’m an educated Latina with a lucrative career. I’m good looking, in shape and I live in a great neighborhood. In the two years since my last relationship, I haven’t met anyone who has expressed any interest in me. Most of my single girlfriends are in the same boat.
It seems that most men are either gay, too self-centered, or prefer Asian women. I've advertised online, and have not been happy with the men who I’ve met. I feel invisible when I go out. I don’t think that it’s just me, as men notice me when I travel, whether it’s to other countries, or just out of the Bay Area. Any tips? Alicia
Dear Alicia, Take heart—even though it’s tough for women to meet men in San Francisco, New York City and Washington DC are rumored to have it worse! Just what is it about vibrant cities that make them such challenging places for women to meet men?
It’s easy to find activities that distract from loneliness and boredom in San Francisco, so pursuing a partner often becomes a secondary activity for men. San Francisco’s business culture is more workaholic than that of other cities. People have less time and energy to pursue a relationship after putting a lot of energy into their career--especially in an era when simply staying in the game often involves working a 50+-hour week.
You don’t say how old you are, but often people have longer gaps between relationships as they become older. Men frequently become shyer as they mature, which means that they are less likely to pursue a woman unless she seems interested.
This doesn’t mean that all is lost. If you use these strategies, you will vastly increase your odds of attracting a great guy. Instead of waiting for a man to approach you, be proactive. Remember that single men (and women) are everywhere. Because you never know where you might meet someone, don’t leave the house, even for a minute, unless you look your best. Men are visual creatures, and are more likely to respond positively to a woman who is wearing makeup and flattering clothes.
Your smile is your best asset. It’s free, so use it liberally. Act confident, friendly and interested towards everyone who you come across, even if you don’t feel attraction. Positive energy appeals to almost everybody. Guys are more likely to notice you if they fell that you are open to meeting them.
If you begin to chat with everyone you run into, you’ll begin to see more possibilities. Keep conversations short, fun and flirtatious, and you won’t seem desperate. Have an exit line available. “I have to go. It’s been nice meeting you,” said with a smile is just fine. If someone asks for your number, and you don’t wish to give it out, smile, thank him for asking, and tell him that you don’t want to share it. Most of the time, you won’t need to use these strategies, but most women feel more confident when they have them in their back pocket.
There are many single available men in San Francisco and the Bay Area. If you go out with patience and a positive attitude, you’re bound to meet someone who will be thrilled to have found you.
Contact me with your dating questions and suggestions annie@getalovelife.net
Check out my Dating Blunders segment on KGO TV View From the Bay.
Midlife dating coach, Annie Gleason, teams up with singles frustrated with the dating scene and helps them to transform their love lives with her exclusive five-step program.
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