RSS
Home
Did he lose my number?
Print
Email
RSS
Subscribe
Being newly single isn’t easy. Jumping back into the “dating pool” again can feel like risky business. Many people often wonder if they will be able to meet anyone with whom they would really like enough to go out. Laura* met a fabulous guy but he hasn’t called. What should she do?
Dear Annie, I just returned to the dating scene after a messy divorce. I met an extremely attractive guy at my very first San Francisco singles event. We really clicked. I was thrilled when he asked for my phone number. I couldn’t wait to see him again.
Fast-forward a couple of weeks, and he hasn’t called me. I’m really surprised, because we had amazing chemistry. Maybe he lost my number. Should I try to contact him? Laura
Annie Replies: I don’t have good news for you Laura. This is how it looks to me: you had a delightful conversation and you and he enjoyed the time you spent together. Even though both of you had a good time, apparently he didn’t feel the same chemistry that you did.
At times, men ask for phone numbers for reasons that women don't understand. Perhaps he wanted to end the conversation on an up-note. Maybe he was curious to see if you liked him enough to give him your number. He may have been part way in, or out, of a relationship, and wanted your number just in case that didn’t work out. He might not have been ready to date, but went out to test the waters. I’m almost certain that he hasn’t lost your number.
At the moment, there is no way to convince all men to behave in a way in which women would like. Your best bet is to arm yourself with a sense of doubt. When you give out your number to men, expect that they may or may not call. Don’t move forward emotionally until a potential romantic interest has called, made plans and you've actually gone out on several dates. In the meantime you should continue to meet and date other men. Single men are everywhere, but you're not going to see them if your emotions are invested in someone who isn't calling you. It's time for you to say "next!" and move forward.
Here's to a great love life! Annie
Be sure to email me with upcoming events where other singles will be this coming weekend!
*Names have been changed
Dating coach Annie Gleason is the West Coast’s mid-life dating specialist
Related Articles:
Add a Comment
