How to develop a positive perspective

July 2, 12:50 PMHolistic Wellness ExaminerAlice Landry

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Becoming an optimist can be as simple as rewording ingrained responses you routinely repeat. Whether you are a parent, a boss, or a relationship partner, you have no doubt been in situations in which you remarked something to the effect of, "Don't do that!" or "I don't have the energy!" or "That shirts looks awful!"

Instead of saying or thinking from a negative or pessimistic perspective, try to consciously think and verbalize from a positive angle. Consider the following sentences and how they can be reorganized into affirmative statements.

• Don't slam the door!  -- I would prefer you to close the door gently. it is more respectful and easier on the hinges.
• I haven't got any time to myself!  --  I am working on ways to manage my time better and incorporate daily periods of relaxation.
• These pants make my butt look big!  --  Although I like the color black for pants, I'd rather find a pair that shows off my curves better.
• The weather's been so nasty!  --  The land sure could use a good soaking, and fresh rain smells so sweet.
• The dinner you made had a weird taste to it!  --  I really enjoyed that shrimp dish you cooked the other night; that one tops all your meals.
• My life is out of control!  --  I am ready to take back control of my life; I can do better.
• I don't want to be in debt. --  I intend to have enough money in my accounts every month to pay all my bills and have extra in savings.
• I can't stand being in a relationship where I have to struggle to communicate.  -- I desire and deserve a relationship where communication flows easily and effortlessly.

Before you automatically respond, particularly during a stressful or tense situation, take a breath and consciously choose a more peaceful, positive reply.

Especially when setting intentions and saying affirmations, focus on what you do want and what you are capable of influencing. Living from a positive perspective progresses your energy forward and helps you bring about changes and reach goals that are important to you.

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Affirmations: I take my time to focus my intentions and energy on a positive perspective. I stay in the here and now and think before I speak. When I communicate with someone else, I let my needs be known from an optimistic point of view. I create affirmations and intentions based on what I can control and improve.