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One of my favorite sayings growing up was “Those who live in glass houses should not throw stones”. I think this is one of the realest sayings ever, because we do it on a regular basis. As a society, we judge quickly, although we may have similar or greater flaws than “the accused”. While I believe we all deserve our opinion, we should show restraint, get all the facts, and show temperament before drawing conclusions. This was evident in the Hofstra case where 5 men were falsely accused of raping a young lady. A lot of people branded these men guilty. Their home addresses were published to the world. Their families threatened. Jobs lost. Expelled from school. They were placed in P.C. with the general population of inmates, who “knew what they did” and dudes in jail don’t take kindly to rapists. Once they were exonerated (thank God for video phones), it was like the public collectively said ‘my bad” and kept it moving. Yet their reputations and privacy were put on blast, and reputation takes time to recover. It sucks that we will jump to conclusions like this, but unfortunately that’s what us humans do.
Forgiveness?
As you saw with the homie RCLS’s post, people find it difficult to forgive and forget actions. I feel that I can forgive 90% of the actions committed against me (save for extreme cases), however forgetting is another issue. If you betrayed my trust or did something foul, it’s easy to straight forgive, but I won’t be the fool to trust you the same way and get burned again. I’ve had fights with frat brothers, cousins, homies, and have reconciled eventually. I wouldn’t forget what happened, but I would be over it. To constantly be affected and harp on another person’s mistake shows that you will be stuck in the past, while others move on with their lives. I definitely held a grudge or two in my day, but I learned to live and let live.
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