The causes of painful postpartum sex
It is eight weeks since the baby was born. Contraception is on board courtesy of an IUD, there is plenty of silicone-based lube, the baby is actually sleeping, and there is finally a glimmer of libido. The problem? Sex hurts a lot and it wasn’t like this before.
Some people think painful sex after a delivery is normal, but it is not. The very first episode of penetration might be mildly uncomfortable for a few seconds, but within minutes sex should feel like the good old days.
What are the causes of painful sex after having a baby?
- Too little estrogen. Estrogen keeps the vaginal tissues healthy and lubricated. Estrogen levels are often low after a delivery, especially if a Mom is breastfeeding or using a progesterone-only type of contraception (like Depo Provera or the Mini-pill). Lack of estrogen can produce pain on insertion and with deep penetration. Using additional lubrication may help, but it won't take care of the problem.
- Problems with the scar from a tear or an episiotomy. This is only a concern for women who have delivered vaginally. The scar should be healed by six weeks. An improperly healed scar typically produces pain on insertion.
- Muscle spasm. The pelvic floor muscles wrap around the vagina. Sometimes these muscles may develop excessive spasm after a delivery (this can happen after both a vaginal delivery or a c-section). The trigger may be the rapid drop in hormones in the immediate postpartum period. Muscle spasm is associated with pain on deep penetration.
- Vulvodynia. This is a nerve pain condition where the skin on the vulva develops a heightened sensitivity to touch. Even the lightest touch can produce terrible burning pain; some women even find underwear uncomfortable. Vulvodynia typically produces pain with insertion.
If there is pain with sex despite adequate lubrication then a trip to the gynecologist is in order. Each one of these conditions has a specific therapy, and the sooner the right treatment is started, the faster parents can return to their sex life.
For more info: Remember, this column does not constitute individual medical advice.
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