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Below are a few hints and tips that might offer solutions or enhancements to your sexual experiences. Some make great tools for creating cravings, strengthening bonds and maintaining ‘sexual’ desires. There are, of course, many more than what is offered here. You are limited only by your own imagination and creativity.
1-Create a checklist–Share and compare
Create a sexual interests checklist. The list should be designed to address requirements, needs, wants, goals and fantasies. It should include anything and everything that is important to you as part of your total sexual experience. Your partner should do the same or you both can use one all-inclusive list. Use them to help set limits and boundaries and discuss fantasies. Sharing an erotic list can promote some rather exciting adventures. It will also help avoid misunderstandings and prevent negative experiences
After you (and your partner) have completed the lists, share them, discuss and negotiate areas of disagreement. Never close the door to compromise or to experiencing all there is. Some things that might sound unpleasant or are on the taboo list, might actually feel good. The body tells all. It betrays the minds inhibitions and reservations by displaying its approval without permission. While pushing limits is a positive, it is wise to be sure you are prepared for the experience and discuss pushing any major limits in advance. Surprise attacks usually create negative experiences.
There is a pre formatted sex checklist available at Inner Voyages
I strongly recommend that you adjust that list to suit your needs or make your own. Personalizing is always a good idea.
2- The Body Divine Experience
Exploration, discovery and grand adventures await. This exercise is designed to provide knowledge as well as potentially offer a marvelous sexual experience. It is one you can perform on your partner or alone. As a shared adventure it can tender a fabulous sexual happening. Performing this exercise on your own body, will offer valuable information about your sensuality, which you can share with your partner. He/She will then be better equipped to provide you with a more satisfying experience.
This experience is not meant to be about orgasm. If it results in orgasm, it is a bonus rather than the intent. It is to be free of pressures and stresses with no expectations. Preparation is as important as the application itself. The atmosphere will dictate the results and therefore should be comfortable, quiet, calm and soothing. A candle lit bath or hot tub would do nicely as well. The phone should be turned off and other external influences eliminated. Allow for hours of pleasure. Sexual experiences should never be hurried even if it is a self-pleasuring experience. Sex is not meant to be an event, but a ‘happening’. Making lasting memories takes time and there is no greater power than that of the human touch.
After you have prepared your partner/yourself and the environment, you will need to prepare the mind and body. Both should be relaxed, focused and receptive. Have your partner lie down on his/her back, with eyes closed and take in a few deep breaths allowing the body to relax. Using the different parts of your hands (fingertips, fingernails, palms etc.) begin at the top of the head, touching and rubbing over the head and through the hair slowly, with very deliberate movement. Continue around the ears, the face and neck; working your way down the body. Pay close attention to the sensations and involuntary physical responses of the body. Listen for sounds and breathing changes which might indicate a hot spot. Watch the body’s movement, muscle flexing & relaxation, and for signs of arousal.
Continue this downward and over the entire body to the tips of the toes, making sure not to miss any areas. Being aware of what makes your partner tick and tingle and where the hot spots are located, will offer unlimited sexual pleasures. The information you gain from this and the bonding that result from such an intimate experience should greatly enhance your sex life. This is great for couples, a fabulous date night or for an incredible self-exploration and sexual experience.
***An added twist to this exercise might include the use of other body parts for exploring such as the tongue. Be creative.
(Recommended reading)
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know
The Multi-Orgasmic Man: Sexual Secrets Every Man Should Know
The Multi-Orgasmic Woman
3-Capture the Moment
Capturing the Moment will promote and provoke self-awareness and sexual desires. Whenever you and/or your partner are feeling sensual, take a picture in whatever dress or position best captures the mood. This helps in promoting awareness, appreciation for the body and the feelings you and/or he/she is experiencing. Taking pictures and videos of your sexual experiences as a couple, is a fun way of recapturing the moments and creates a desire for more. Always be mindful of privacy issues and don’t share any pictures or videos without consent.
4- Sensual Tasks
Sensual tasks are fun tools to use for bonding, creating cravings, pushing limits and fun sexual adventures. The tasks can be simple or grandiose; whatever suits your personal tastes. Having your partner do something naughty at lunchtime in the bathroom, while at work, at the gym, in the tanning booth or while at home offers great stimulation for an after dinner adventure. The idea is to create arousal and stimulation that translates to desires and cravings. It works well at keeping the connection and flow of want strong and intact.
5-Keeping a Sex Journal
Journals of sexual self expression are another way to stay connected and bonded. Writing down needs, wants, desires and fantasies and sharing them, offers a non-threatening way to promote open communication. It is often difficult to discuss these types of issues openly and writing allows the freedom of expression without the inhibitions getting in the way. Making the fantasies a reality is a great reward for a job well done.
ENJOY!
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