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The power of the mind can take us to fabulous places and offer us pleasures we might not otherwise be able to experience, but is it capable of sustaining a satisfying, long lasting relationship on its own? We know .gif)
it can bring incredible sexual happenings, without the benefit of another’s physical touch, create cravings and allow us to feel all that love has to offer. It can support our emotional, physical and spiritual needs for the short term, but is its magic powerful enough, when void of physical contact, to keep the bonds, connection and desires, needed for a relationship to flourish, in tact and flowing consistently for long periods?
it can bring incredible sexual happenings, without the benefit of another’s physical touch, create cravings and allow us to feel all that love has to offer. It can support our emotional, physical and spiritual needs for the short term, but is its magic powerful enough, when void of physical contact, to keep the bonds, connection and desires, needed for a relationship to flourish, in tact and flowing consistently for long periods? For the vast majority, relationships that come with distance issues, usually end up in failure. The success rate is low due simply to the dictates of human nature. Those who are in love want to share every aspect of their lives and need the benefit of the human touch. They also need to share interests and activities past the restrictive realm of cyberspace. Online relationships most often leave gaps, which create frustration in all of those areas. The negatives ultimately outweigh the positives and the constant flow of negatives stretches the limits and eventually weakens the bonds.
Distance creates issues and controls many aspects of the relationship. It determines the frequency of in person visits, provokes separation anxieties and causes the physical stresses related to travel. The first hours of the meetings are tainted by the time needed to ‘settle in’ and recover from the trip, while the non-traveling partner anxiously waits for the other to catch up with their excitement. The last hours are spent in dealing with the drama of separation and having to let go. In both instances there are frustrations and negatives. Even an hour or two in drive time on a regular basis can strain the relationship and drain resources.
It is the sexual issues however, which pose the greater difficulties and present the toughest obstacles to overcome. We all have needs that can’t be ignored or suppressed without the risk of consequences. Sex is one of those basic essentials that when inappropriately attended and left unfulfilled will erode even an indelible love. The realities of being left to continually self-pleasure and satisfy our own needs creates voids and leaves us to question our realities.What rationale exists for having a partner with whom sharing is so limited and drastically out of balance?
All of those issues promote negatives and all lead to the same end; frustration and discontent. A constant flow of negatives and frustrations is not conducive to successful relationships, and long distance romance holds more than its share of each. The inevitable happens as we are forced to question the sanity of it all and seriously consider its worth in the grand scheme of things.
As with any of the aspects of online dating and relationships, this too has its positives and negatives. It also comes with compromises and options. One of the partners relocating is a viable option, but for some it holds disadvantages due to career and family issues. Relocating can also bring about the discovery of flaws in the relationship that weren’t obvious in the short encounters. Those discoveries can prove to be costly for both. Being together online or for short weekend visits is not the same as the commitments of daily living. For every compromise and option there are risks.
For many, however, a long distance romance works. It is an ideal design, which suits their lifestyle and adequately meets their needs. Some people need the space and enjoy the lack of the day-to-day commitments that relationships often demand. Many people have no interest in or time for a daily regime and are opposed to a live in situation. They much prefer their role as the weekend lover or the once a month out of town visitor. They thrive on the freshness of the feelings brought by each encounter. It is exciting, rewarding and provides the perfect of all situations.
Long distance offers no guarantees. For some it works, but for most it doesn’t. Only you know what is right for you and what your needs and requirements are. The only way to know for sure is to test it with full knowledge of the pros and cons and having all the questions sorted out. The answers will either prove its worth or prove to be a learning experience and an opportunity for growth,
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