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Your complaints about your spouse could be telling you something
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When two people live together for awhile, their quirks and idiosyncrasies tend to get on each other’s nerves. We tend to write those things as off as annoying, but maybe they’re really there to teach us something.
It’s easier to see negative things in others than it is in ourselves. That’s largely because we judge others by their actions, but we judge ourselves by our intentions.
If we take a step back and analyze the situation from a different perspective, we may realize that those things that annoy us about our spouse are actually issues we need to deal with in our own lives.
For example, it used to bother me that my husband didn’t seem to listen to me or hear what I was saying. That irritated me. I ended up doing some self-evaluation and realized that I often don’t listen to my husband either. My annoyance with his seeming lack of interest in what I had to say was actually a reflection of my behavior toward him. Ouch.
I can think of many other examples like that in our marriage. Fortunately, I’ve learned over the years to look inside myself when things irritate me about my husband and see if his behavior or my irritation with his behavior is actually a reflection of my behavior. Oftentimes, it is.
I can’t change my husband, but I can change me. So when these things are brought to my attention, it’s for good reason—to grow me and make me into a better person and a more pleasing mate. It also gives me more grace for my husband.
The next time you find yourself irritated with your mate, do some self-evaluation and determine if that annoyance is actually a reflection of your own behavior. Growing can be a painful process, but it’s well worth it in the end.
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