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There was a time when shows like Maury and Jerry Springer used to be good, used to have actual topics that were interesting and informative. Then they realized that people are addicted to bad TV and gave up on showing anything that could benefit anyone. Now, there are tons of no-quality, debauchery-filled shows to choose from. Sure, they can be tempting. Some of them can be comical and entertaining. Still, it's best to resist. They are too damaging in the end.
It’s these types of shows that help create and solidify the “all men are dogs”, “ain’t no good men”, “all men cheat” perceptions that infect so many women. Sure, some men are dogs, some ain’t no good, and some cheat, but not all of them. These seemingly harmless shows, and others like them, do more than just make us shake our heads in shame. They plant ideas (negative ones) in our minds.
So much of “conventional wisdom” is made up of negative, misinterpreted, and just plain wrong information that we’ve been convinced to believe. For example, everyone knows that diet products are better than regular. Wrong. Most diet foods and drinks are just as bad or even worse than the originals, because of the additives they put in to make up for the fat and sugar they removed. That’s just one example, a small one. A bigger one is this insidious belief that men, by their very nature, are incapable of being faithful, honest, sweet, caring, and gentle (unless they’re gay, of course). Think about it. When a man cheats, how easy is it to dismiss it as typical male behavior? When he lies, how many of us say “He’s just being a man”? And when a man is nice, how many of us think he’s too good to be true?
Like attracts like. Believing such negativity only invites it into your life. You will not find a good man until you believe that there is one to be found. You won’t experience lasting happiness in a relationship until you believe that lasting happiness is possible. Ladies, while searching for the one, know that’ll you’ll find nothing other than that which you believe is there. When you say “there are no good men,” you’re really saying “I only pay attention to the bad men.”
Protect yourself and you relationships from the influences of negative ideas. Popular thinking will adversely affect your life if you let it. What you let into your life affects how you see it. They say “you are what you eat.” That’s true, but they should say “you are what you eat, think, watch, hear and believe.” Those are all different ways that stimuli go in. Believe that they come out. Regardless of if you accept it or not, we create our own realities. You set the tone. You choose the atmosphere. It’s an important job. Don’t allow others to do that for you.
Sending beautiful energy your way,
~ Nadirah Angail
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