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Rihanna Is back in the headlines. A softer, sensitive looking, demure Rihanna, a far cry from the S&M, hardened, high-end gothic look that was worn in the past weeks and months. She has a CD hitting the stores later this month so I suspect her handlers need a strategic move to assure its relative success. Using battery as a media opportunity for the latest CD pop just does not sit well with me. Had this occurred right after the sentencing I would certainly be open to buying into her reflective perspective. But the timing with her new CD is a bit too transparent, given her pre-interview behavior. From outrageous and edgy to soft and innocent, who is the real Rihanna?
I am currently listening to a young man who is coming out of a relationship where the woman was physically abusive; the similarity is compelling, although he never hit her physically, just verbally and he takes responsibility for that. The reason for that behavior I found to be the most profound and interesting and will talk about \ that in the next write. I find it interesting that Brown -- at least at the time of his Larry King interview, -- refused to say anything that would cast a negative light on Rihanna, took responsibility for what resulted from his behavior. Equally interesting as to how many still choose not to believe his sincerity. In reality only time will tell if he made a mistake or if this is an issue of character.
I have seen it too many times: you become or manifest in your life what you don't resolve. Chris Brown needs to be by himself and in an intense therapy program for at least a year. Believe it or not, when I saw an interview of him some time ago, on Tyra Banks, my first thought was that he was an angry, troubled young man, even though he may have a good heart. But if he does not resolve his issues now, those issues will be an ingrained part of his character and who he is. No amount of jail time will fix what's broken in him. Forget, the career, he needs to repair who he is first.
Capitalizing upon the rehearsal of a story that needs to become a private healing, the angry lynch mobs have been resurrected, even though due process has been rendered and the judge issued a very fair sentencing in hopes of salvaging two lives. The judge seems to be the only one who understood what needed to be done. Had the court not ordered that they both stay away from each other, not communicate with each other, one or the other would have found a way to patch together a dysfunctional relationship that needed to dissolve. Permanently. Know a little about the Bajun culture and noted that Rihanna's father, who initially minimized her injuries in his public comments, seemed to have no problem with her returning to the relationship at first but later thought it best that they both move on. Her testimony would have been court ordered, not voluntary. That speaks volumes about her mindset and supports the fact that she needs counseling as well. She has handlers and this was part of the process to sell the product. If she wanted to be a lesson learned for her female fans, she would have said something right after his sentencing. Both are listening to whomever their handlers are. Period.
Just as Taylor Swift got plenty of pity purchases of her CD because of the contrived KW staging, the same is expected for Rihanna. I would not want her to be the role model for my young ones – or anyone -- unless I saw her getting ongoing professional help. In reading her most recent interviews, I see that she still doesn't get it -- at all. So I expect to hear her name and violence connected again in the future, and not having anything to do with Brown.
Although there is never, ever any reason that would justify a man hitting a woman -- unless of course it is a life-threatening situation involving a weapon that she is wielding -- I have noticed the one question no one in the media has asked: Rihanna: Did you hit Chris Brown?
Next write: Female abuse of males.
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