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Hey,
Last time I wrote about how long distance relationships can be a good thing. For every good thing, there tends to be bad sides though. These are the reasons why long distance relationships can be a pain:
Intimacy - Ok, you can't just call up your partner, "come over to watch a movie", and end up doing the horizontal tango. Besides sex, you also miss out on the holding, the kissing, and the general petting that occurs between two lovers.
Trust - If you're too far away from your partner to be having sex, and your partner wants to have sex, then there's a tricky predicament. It's hard to trust someone you don't see daily, and while social networking sites help with communication, there's always a chance that a stray picture or comment will cause suspicion. Talking to someone or taking pictures with someone can incite jealousy in a relationship. The feelings are then amplified by the distance between the two people.
Bonding - People who are far away from each other have a problem growing as a couple. Again, a lack of communication is typically the problem.
Temptation - Each individual wonders if the "grass is greener on the other side", meaning that they wonder if any person they talk to is more suitable than the one they have now. They may also feel that they can cheat on their partner and get away with it, which is made easier because of the separation.
Long-distance relationships have both a good and bad side. The time I see them most often is when couples from high school go out to different colleges. Things go from so well in high school to miserable in college. A major reason for that is emotional immaturity; the couple is still young and has not fully developed emotionally. Major life experiences can happen in college that can shape a person, and biologically the body is still linking the synapses in the brain. I recommend having non-romantic long-distance relationships in college and once out, long-distance relationships are worth a shot.
Photo credit: Robert Bell
Until we meet again,
Olin Gallet
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