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Most of us at some point or another have inquired: "Why can't life be easier?" or "Why me?" However, these questions could be re-framed for our benefit by asking: "What is making life so hard?" or "Why not me?"
A mother in a Langston Hughes poem once told her son that while she had been climbing, reaching and turning corners, still "life for me ain't been no crystal stair." This is so true for many of us. Even though the mother had been advancing through life, it certainly was not done with ease. But the point she was making was that she persevered in the face of a hard life.
Many view life as something they must struggle through and carry around deep wounds of unforgiveness, resentment, fear, regret, loathing, self-pity, etc. which have made life hard and burdensome. Some people view these wounds as having been inflicted upon them as no result of anything they did to deserve it or because they didn't have a choice. Life can be easier and more fulfilling than what you are currently experiencing.
While I cannot guarantee that life will ever be an easy walk on a crystal staircase, I can tell you how to make life easier:
- Begin to realize that people act and respond to life based on their level of emotional and spiritual maturity. Often times a person's communication and actions toward you have nothing to do with you personally, but rather everything to do with their perceptions and point of view. We cannot expect unhealthy people to respond in healthy ways. We also cannot expect people to be loving toward us when they have not had a revelation of what it truly means to love someone or even to love themselves.
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Try to see the bigger picture by acknowledging that people and situations are not your problem. For anything that has happened to you or through you, there is a lesson to be learned, wisdom to be gained. No matter the level of hurt or joy received from the situation, it can always be used to bring you to a higher realm of maturity thereby making life more fulfilling. Try as best you can to see beyond the "moment" of the experience and look deeper into what could have possibly motivated the situation and how you can take something good from it.
- Remember that time passes and wounds get healed if we work to heal them. Everything is temporary. Just as good days pass, so do the bad ones. Don't lose sight of your goals and desires. Continue to strive for whatever your life's vision is. It is only through diligent perseverance that anything in life will be gained. Life is a marathon not a sprint.
Our lives are shaped by how we respond to it. And our response is based on our perspective. Challenge yourself to bring your perspective higher to realize that everything isn't always about what happens to you, but what could happen through you if you choose to respond differently. Also, through our perception we either magnify the problems in life or we magnify solutions to be more victorious over circumstances. And do not grow tired of doing what is right. If you fall 7 times, pick yourself up and try 7 more times. Sooner or later, you'll hit your mark!
I want to hear from you: If there is a particular life issue/question you have and want to see it addressed on this site, let me know. Also, I welcome any feedback you may have regarding how I can be of greater service to you through this medium. Leave comments below or email me at lifecoachexaminer@gmail.com.
Langston Hughes' "Mother to Son"
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