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Too often, women seem to be grateful just to get the ring. Sad. Viewing marriage as a destination instead of as the beginning of a journey is pretty pitiful. Admit it. You just feel lucky to have found someone who is willing to put up with your stuff. What?
Telling the truth about our motivations for getting married is hard. Why are we doing it? Yeah, we love the guy but let's face it, we have some reservations. We weigh the good and bad. We overlook alot. He has a good job...or he's good in bed. Ouch.
Getting married is serious stuff. It's your life. You may get a do-over but not without a lot of scar tissue and a heck of a lot of baggage. You need to get it right the first time (or this time if you've already made some mistakes).
Here's my advice. Pay attention to the little stuff. If he doesn't care more about your happiness than his - run. Stop making excuses. You know lame behavior when you experience it. Don't believe me. Go get the book "He's just not that into you." Not the movie, the book. You have to wade through these stories to really appreciate how similar the behavior is to the guy you're considering. Once you go through a few of them, you start to see the common denominators.
Then, go get the book by Dr. Robin that encourages you (and your guy) to "show up like a grown up". If he isn't willing to be responsible, engaged and part of the relationship - you really don't want him.
So, maybe this isn't the fun article on wedding trends and Spring bridal styles. But it may be the best article you've read if it makes you stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself what you already know.
Although this is the season to feel gratitude. Don't. Don't be grateful just to have a man in your life, someone in your bed, someone to take you to dinner or someone who says they love you. Demand more. Be grateful that you are special enough to deserve the whole package. Settle for nothing less. And by next Thanksgiving, you will be thankful that you told yourself the truth and were strong enough to handle it. You'll still hurt a bit from the pain but you'll sit down to your next family dinner being very thankful that you now know what you really want.
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