From Here to Eternity: dangerous kisses, illicit love (video)

August 16, 12:55 AMLove and Marriage ExaminerRita Watson

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  AP Photo (Burt Reynolds and Deborah Kerr)

Sometimes a kiss is more than a kiss. Sometimes it turns into friends with benefits, and in some cases, it signals the beginning of a dangerous liaison.

In the classic movie From Here to Eternity, as our DVD Movies Examiner,  Charles Wiebe points out, "The scene that will be forever remembered, arguably one of the most famous in the history of cinema; Lancaster and Kerr laying on the beach in an embrace as the surf foams up around them. She responds to his passionate kiss saying 'I never knew it could be like this!'"

But their's was illicit love.  If you are llying for love and telling yourself that the married man or woman with whom you are involved is really the love of your life — then it is may just be excuse to avoid commitment.

If you need the passion of an illicit affair (whether in marriage or the boundrary violation of teacher and student ) then watch a movie. Here we present the great beach scene From Here to Eternity embedded. And despite the number of times I say that I like to remain “Neutral but opinionated” — when it comes to infidelity — infidelity is adultry, is cheating, is infidelity.

Cheating in Marriage: According to M. Gary Newman, father or five and a Rabbi, in his  book The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It, we learn that 92 percent say it was not about sex. Of the nearly one in three men who cheat, he tells us that "The majority said it was an emotional disconnection, specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated. A lack of thoughtful gestures."

Practice forgiving:  Although Mayo Clinic tells us that a relationship and marriage can be healed after infidelity, recovering from a betrayal of trust is not easy. It is much better to find a way to talk to each other before the damage is done. Infidelity   Try the practice of forgiving, is a lot simpler than you might think.

From our DVD Movies Examiner,  Charles Wiebe, From Here to Eternity: The Defining Moment (And on TCM Saturday)

From my John Edwards series with lots of links: John Edwards paternity: children in two Americas

From Kristen Houghton, our Relationship Examiner: Rielle Hunter meet the 'third' person in your affair - his wife

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