
Even the most devoted couple needs the occasional break from the connubial state and its many equivalents. For all but same sex couples, the guys' or gals' night out is the traditional vehicle for sanctioned extra-relational adventure. Not all members of every pair approves of the concept, however. Some women consider male merriments sexist. Some men, though perhaps not many, feel excluded from gal get-togethers. What is the correct response to a segregated soiree? And if considering one oneself, how best to put the proposition over?
If uncertain of the response the single-sex sortie might elicit, plan an event for which your better half would cheerfully substitute a root canal procedure. Professional wrestling bouts, fashion shows (Victoria's Secret not included), beer blasts, and meditation classes are all examples of occasions that one gender or the other will likely forego with the greatest enthusiasm. "You go ahead honey, have a great time. I'll watch a movie or something," will be the invariable response. He or she can then sally forth with a clear conscience, secure in the knowledge that no matter how much fun is to be had with the girls or the boys, the stay-at-home spouse would have hated every minute of it.
Trouble arises if the gender-differentiated diversion has cross-gender appeal. Steer clear of the stag party or its female equivalent (sometimes called the hen party or, to coin a phrase, the doe do) at Gary Danko and the problem is easily avoided. If one's soul-mate has committed the folly of booking such an occasion, there is only one response. Or rather two, depending on one's gender. He must say, "Oh great. I can't wait to see all the girls again. What time do we eat?" She must merely smile and murmur, "in that case, I think I'll buy that new outfit. You wouldn't want me to look like one of the guys at a place like Gary Danko, now would you?"