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Baltimore Beauty ExaminerArika Casebolt is a renaissance woman--a former rock goddess and now an aesthetician who has lived the D.C.-to-Baltimore commuter life. Her goal is to educate and enthrall her readers with beauty tips for everyone, from the meek to the daring, for the commuters in all of us, and for those who prefer to stay at home.
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by Arika Casebolt, Baltimore Beauty Examiner
"She's so pretty (thin, curvaceous, tall, small, whatever). Don't you just hate her?"
Huh? Um, no I do not. Really, what the deuce is that about? I find that mentality to be extremely detrimental and it's shocking how pervasive it is. Why is it that our collective sense of self-worth as American women is somehow based in competition? Not that this is a groundbreaking observation or anything, but I can't stand hearing it. Is it not the year two thousand eight A.D?
I experience envy all the time, don't get me wrong; all day long I admire physical beauty in other women I see, friends and strangers alike. I just don't get how that becomes hatred.
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Another one I can't stand, usually following the "I hate her", is something like, "And she's so nice. How often is someone that pretty (thin, curvaceous, tall, etc-doesn't really matter) also that nice?"
About as often as anyone is nice, actually. Why does she have to choose? And that kind of attitude also implies that general coolness in one's treatment of fellow humans is a chore that need only be embraced by those perceived as less attractive, because otherwise why would you? This whole idea is insane. Are we as women the worst culprits in propagating this ridiculous idea that another person's gifts somehow negate our own? I say yes, we are in large part responsible, at least in heterosexual culture.
Do I like asking myself questions and then answering them? Clearly.
It's increasingly obvious to me that the male of our species tend to take their cues from us in the way we demonstrate admiration toward each other (or don't). For example, it has been observed that women tend to dress more for other women, not their male admirers. I think it is hilarious that the girlies spend hours deliberating over the prettiest, most matchy-matchy lingerie, ostensibly for their male partner, when my guess is that most guys are probably thinking, "Scarily delicate-looking fabric obstructing lady parts. Must remove obstruction."
If the ladies appreciate each other, we can raise the bar, I know it. Who's with me?
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