How do you sleep together?

July 27, 5:23 PMMiami Sex & Relationships ExaminerJillian B.

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Some experts believe the way you sleep together can reveal a lot about your relationship and how you truly feel about each other. In Tracy Cox's book, Superflirt, the above sleeping positions are loosely based on research by California psychiatrist Mark Goulston. While he does admit they're not accurate relationship indicators, they can give clues. Here is what he found-

THE SPOON: (top left)

The classic "happily married" position: loving and physically close. Few couples hug or spoon during sleep if they're sexually frustrated or resentful. (The partner who's not eager for sex is worried any sign of affection will be interpreted as an inviation; the other gets the message any touch is unwelcome so stops trying.)

HONEYMOON: (top right)

Ridiculously romantic, this is the pose of new lovers in the honeymoon part of their relationship. This position sends 3 signals: a desire to connect on all three levels, a need for reassurance (by hanging on possessively, they can't turn away), and total commitment to each other and the relationship.

BUTT TO BUTT: (buttom left)

Studies show it's far more comfortable to sleep solo., yet few dispute the joy of sleeping with someone you love. This is a good compromise. You're lying on your own side of the bed with plenty of room to move, but your butts touch. Couples who sleep like this are in good shape: it's pretty impressive that you're maintaining contact with each other even when inconcious and back to back! Awake, you're likely to be affectionate and not afraid of intimacy.

DANGEROUS DISTANCE: (bottom right)

You're at opposite sides of the bed, back to back. One or both of your arms cross oer your body, forming a partial block. Not only are you protecting yourself emotionally by literally covering your heart, but your'e also reducing the chance of accidently touching each other while you sleep. This is the "post arguement" position. If you're sleeping like this permanently, watch out. Lots of space between you as you sleep translates to emotional distance during waking hours.