How Status Seeking in Financially Unstable TImes Can Ruin a Relationship

November 6, 12:59 PMBoston Dating ExaminerAlisa Chagnon

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Many men who do truly love a woman, can become very frustrated when they feel that they can never make their woman happy enough. “No matter what I give her, she wants more!” some will say. Many women will counter back by saying that he also enjoyed all of those vacations, and if married, that he also wanted a big home and nice cars.

But, financial situations can change…and with that, expectations of a certain lifestyle will need to be adjusted. If a man feels that you only love him because of what he buys you or what size home you live in…he can become very unhappy and frustrated if life’s circumstances bring out change…especially in today’s economy where he may not be able to bring you on exotic vacations or allow for that addition to the home that you were expecting.

When 2 people decide to share their lives together… remember the vows that were taken…they were not said just for the heck of it: “In good times and in bad” “for richer or for poorer”. When a man feels that he only can have a woman’s love based on what his salary is…he feels defeated….he feels as if his manhood is taken away….he will be under too much pressure to give you material things when all he needs at times of financial instability your unconditional love.

Most men place enough pressure on themselves to achieve success.. when their significant other then pushes more pressure onto them… this can absolutely ruin a relationship. Anyone can stick around when things are great… true love sticks around when things get rocky.

Women often put pressure on their man because they do not feel self sufficient. They may feel that if he fails, they fail. They may feel that if he does not keep his job that they are in deep trouble also. A fair, loving relationship is one is which both people bring things to the table. Love, caring, support, physical intimacy…and yes, money.

A woman should ask herself what “enough” is. Can he be enough to make you happy? Ask yourself, “If my mate never accomplishes more than he is doing now, can I truly love him?” or “Do I need to fill my insecurities by being with a man who will make me feel as if I am a worth person by the large amount of money that he makes?”

If you seek out men as external solution to internal problems that you have, you need to work harder on building your own self esteem. Never marry a man for who he is “now”. Marry a man for who he is now, and for whomever he may become in the future as you hold hands and experience the ups and downs that life’s journey brings us.

Let’s look at the 4 other: Innocent Expectations That Can Ruin a Relationship
1. Wedding Blues
2. Eagerness
3. Romance Expectations
4. Looking for a Hero