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Do you want to find a match or not? That's a serious question.
One staple of any good dating site is its ability to match prospective singles with each other. In the case of two of the best dating sites out there, eHarmony and OkCupid, this is done by asking the users a variety of questions that can be fed into a database to produce said matches.
Of course, there isn’t a perfect way to match people because we’re all unpredictable and the questions could never be comprehensive enough to address every aspect of our personalities. Nevertheless, with little else to go on, these questions provide us with guidelines for matching that make it difficult to argue.
Obviously every site has a different standard of asking; while eHarmony provides hundreds of mandatory statements and poses them in a manner in which you can only vote on how strongly you feel about them or whether you agree or disagree, OkCupid has thousands of optional questions created by the users that can have any number of answers along with the option of choosing how strongly one feels about their answer and what they’d want their perfect match to say.
It goes without saying that all of these questions and statements should be addressed honestly for the sake of providing an accurate picture of your personality so you can get the best possible match, but there’s another factor that should be considered as well.
For the most part, the people you’re being matched with have answered the same questions you have; some people zip through them at an alarming clip while others stress over simple questions with loaded answers. Personally, I find either of those options to be a tad unwieldy. The best thing to keep in mind, in this writer’s opinion, is what you feel strongly about.
For example, if you’re a vegetarian and feel strongly about it, provide an accurate example of your enthusiasm in answering a question. If you’re flexible with it, present that accurately. If you hate sports, voice that hatred. If you’re just indifferent to sports and could care less if a significant other wanted you to watch a game with them, meet it with the appropriate level of indifference.
In short, let the stuff that doesn’t mean that much to you slide. If you’re rigid about everything, you’re going to significantly reduce the margin of acceptable dates, and even if feel that means you simply know what you want, you’re not taking into account the x-factor that people normally outside of your interests can represent. If you’re too loose, you’ll open yourself up to too many people that you might not have anything in common with, and if you don’t pay attention while you’re answering questions, you might as well not join a dating site.
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