Beaches are simply romantic

October 31, 3:16 PMSan Jose Romantic Getaways ExaminerTana Marie Misrack

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Beaches = Romance!

 “SWF seeks SWM for a long-term committed relationship. I love sterling silver roses, fine dining, long romantic strolls on the beach, cuddling by a warm fire, and Shelties.”

Have you ever wondered why every personal ad mentions ‘long walks on the beach’? Ever noticed how every romantic montage in almost every movie ever made has a scene of a couple either walking the beach, or rolling around in the sand in a passionate embrace? What is it about the beach, the sand, the water, the sun on your face, the wind in your hair, that just automatically puts just about everyone in a romantic, warm and fuzzy mood?

It's the way it makes us feel... we fall in love with what makes us feel good.

For oh so many years now in my private practice, working with thousands of people, I have said consistantly that a man falls in love primarily because of the way his lover makes him feel. Yes of course we have to have chemistry, physical attraction, shared interests and values; but all of that equates to that inexplicable feeling of love that one has when feeling important, valuable and safe are present.

I, like millions of other people all over the world, have beaches, lakes, and other amazing bodies of water, high on my list of romantic venues. So, okay, it's beautiful, sand between your toes is wonderful, so what's the big deal?

I feel it's the combination of all those negative ions floating around, the freshness of the air, the soothing rhythm of the waves constantly beating at the shore, the warmth of the sun, or the mystery of a moody, foggy day, just lets you unwind, forget your troubles, and be one with nature. When you are in an environment like that, your feelings of love and romance just naturally float to the surface, because when you're feeling that good, you naturally want to share it with someone special.

In my search for romantic getaways, I really don't have to go very far to find romance on just about every beach known to man. Today I want to showcase a few beaches in the Monterey Bay Area, (CA, USA).

Monterey, Carmel, Pacific Grove, and Big Sur, have long been prized areas for their beauty, amazing weather, and absolutely breathtaking ocean vistas of rugged natural beauty, and pristine beaches. I have enjoyed all of the beaches I am talking about today, and want to share some of those romantic, life-enhancing experiences. 

So what are some specific things someone can do to ensure that a trip to the coast will turn out to be a romantic getaway? I'm so glad you asked!

• Take your shoes off, roll up your pant legs, and walk in the water and just let all of your cares melt away.
• Walk hand-in-hand with your lover along the beach and talk about your plans for the future, the dreams and wishes you have, and find out what theirs are.
• Lying on a blanket or sitting in a beach chair, reading a good book or listening to your iPod is something I recommend putting on your essentials list. We all get too caught up in the craziness of our lives that we forget that we do need down time. 
• Build a bonfire on the beach and light it as the sun is setting. Pull your lover close to you as you watch the fire crackle and the remaining light of the day reflecting off of passing clouds. (Just make sure that the beach you go to allows bonfires, because many beaches don't allow them anymore.)
• Taking a walk on the beach with your lover, and/or your furry best friend, does so much to fill up the heart that I can't recommend it enough.
• Stand at the waters edge and make a declaration of something you want, say an affirmation for something you'd like to do, say a prayer for yourself or someone in your life, or just be thankful that you had such an amazing day, event, or life.
• If you've had a tough time with someone, one of the best places for forgiveness I've ever found is at the beach. Is it someone who is still in your life that you need to forgive? Take them to the beach, sit down on the sand, tell them what's in your heart, how they hurt you, and that you're ready to forgive them. Is it someone who is no longer in your life, but you desperately need to forgive him or her in order to move on? OK, go to the beach by yourself, stand by the water's edge, or comfortably sit in a secluded area, and envision them sitting or standing next to you. From this comfortable and safe vantage point, say everything you've ever wanted and needed to say to them. Once you do that, end your dialogue with a simple phrase such as, "I now forgive and release you." Forgiving someone releases you and doing it at the beach somehow makes it happen more easily.

Having a picnic on the beach, playing volleyball or Frisbee, having a party, honoring someone's passing, watching the sunset, swimming, surfing, jogging, even chatting on your cell phone or texting, brings joy. Joy makes us happy to be alive, it lets our guard down, it helps us become more authentic. Out of that joy and authenticity, their big brother, ‘Romance,’ is waiting to come and play. Invite him in; you'll be so glad you did!