Business travel and infidelity - how cheating men use business travel to hide their affairs

September 15, 5:37 PMInfidelity ExaminerRuth Houston

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Business travel and infidelity
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According to Eagle Investigative Services, 42% of women get suspicious when their spouse or significant other goes on a business trip.

Judging from the inquiries I get and the consultations I do related to the topic of business travel and infidelity, women have every right to be concerned.

Business travel often provides a cheating husband with the perfect cover for his extramarital affair. There’s nothing like a business trip, real or fictitious, to account for a large block of time.

Most men who are guilty of infidelity have no qualms about using business travel to facilitate, enhance, or camouflage their affairs. An out-of-town trip can allow a cheating spouse or significant other the luxury of conducting his affair in a location far from the sight of prying eyes. In many cases, his company may unknowingly be picking up part or all of the tab.

If you suspect your husband of infidelity, don’t discount business travel as one of the methods he may employ in an attempt to hide his affair. Below are some of the tactics a cheating husband who travels might use:

Bogus Business Trips

Is your husband traveling more frequently than before? A cheating husband whose job requires frequent travel can easily invent a business trip that doesn’t exist. This is the tactic most frequently used by cheating husbands to cover a vacation with their mistress.

Sandy’s Story - Sandy’s husband Bob told her he had to spend a week at the company’s West coast office. But he led everyone at the office to believe that he was taking a week’s vacation with his wife. Bob’s carefully constructed cover story fell apart when Sandy ran into the wife of one of Bob’s co-workers who asked Sandy how she enjoyed her vacation in Hawaii last month.

Padding His Trip

Are your husband’s business trips lasting longer than usual? Sometimes a cheating husband will tack on an extra day or two before or after a legitimate business trip. This allows him to have extra time to spend with his mistress, or a few days to indulge in a local fling.

Jeanne’s Story - From conversations Jeanne overheard at her husband’s company picnic, it became clear that the convention Dan recently attended was only three days long, not five. Caught off guard, when Jeanne questioned him about the discrepancy in the number of days, Dan could offer no valid explanation for returning home from the convention two days later than everyone else. Her suspicions now aroused, Jeanne hired a private investigator, and Dan’s extramarital affair was soon exposed.

A Home Away from Home

Do you know where your partner is staying when he’s out of town? Or do you automatically assume you’ll be able to reach him by cell phone, or at his hotel? If the cheater has a mistress who lives in a city where he travels frequently for business, he may opt to stay at her home instead of a hotel.

Brenda’s Story - Brenda had no idea this was the case with Harvey until their teenage son was involved in a car accident. Unable to get Harvey on his cell phone, Brenda tried reaching him at the Radisson where he usually stayed when he was in Boston, only to be told he wasn’t registered there. Nor was Harvey registered at any other hotel in the Boston area. A frantic call to Harvey’s job revealed where Harvey was. Brenda was told that Harvey always stayed at the home of an old college classmate when he was servicing the Boston accounts. The college classmate turned out to be an ex-girlfriend, who was now divorced.

Travel for Two but Not with You

Are you no longer invited to accompany your husband on his business trips, when you used to always travel with him before? Does he refuse to let you drop him off at the airport, or pick him up when he returns? Maybe he has a travelling companion he doesn’t want you to see.

Lynette’s Story - Tyrone told Lynette he’d catch a cab home from the airport since he was returning on a late night flight. Even though he discouraged Lynette from coming to the airport to pick him up, she decided to surprise him and be there to meet him, anyway. The surprise was on Lynette when she saw Tyrone leaving the plane in the company of a woman she had never seen before. Not wanting to jump to conclusions, Lynette followed Tyrone and the other woman at a discreet distance. Their body language and the bits of conversation Lynette managed to hear, left no doubt that the woman was not just someone Tyrone happened to meet on the plane. Lynette confronted them when they reached the baggage claim area and caused quite a scene.

Don’t let a cheating husband or boyfriend use business travel to pull the wool over your eyes. Become familiar with the travel-related signs of infidelity that can alert you that he’s having an affair. The chapter on Travel (Chapter 13) in Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs lists 27 travel-related signs of infidelity.

To learn more about these and other signs of infidelity request the free tip sheet that describes the 21 major categories of infidelity signs. E- mail InfidelityInfo@gmail.com  with “21 categories - Xm” in the subject line.

*** © copyright 2009 Ruth Houston

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog.

For more information on signs of infidelity, cheating mates,  and extramarital affairs, see:

Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs

Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell (   free tip sheet)

13 things you didn't know about signs of infidelity

When should you hire a private investigator to check out a cheating mate?

Infidelity Resources to Help You Catch a Cheating Mate

Free Infidelity Tip Sheets and Special Reports

What are the top 10 signs of infidelity?

3 things a wife stands to lose by being the last to know