What you need to know about your husband's mistress and why

July 29, 3:34 PMInfidelity ExaminerRuth Houston

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Two recent events in the news drive home the need for any wife who knows her husband is cheating, to check his mistress out.

Mary Jo Buttafuoco, the woman who was shot in the head by Amy Fisher, her husband’s teenage mistress 17 years ago, is currently doing the talk show circuit to promote her new book, “Getting it Through My Thick Skull.”

Earlier this month, former NFL football star, Steve McNair was killed in his sleep by Sahel Kazemi, his young mistress, who then turned the gun on herself.

As you can see, knowing who and what kind of person your husband’s mistress is could be a matter of life and death.

Your life, your husband’s life, and the lives of your children, as well as your financial well-being may depend finding out certain details about the woman your husband is involved with, and making good use of what you know.

This article will tell you what you need to know about her and why, and how you can find out.

Where does his mistress live?

Does she live in your neighborhood? In your city or town? In another city or state?

Does she have access to you or your children?

Is she a stalker?
Will she attempt to harass or harm you in some way?

How old is she?

Younger women in their late teens or early 20’s tend to be unpredictable.

Amy Fisher, Joey Buttafuoco’s mistress was in high school when she went to Joey’s home and shot his wife, Mary Jo Buttafuoco in the head 17 years ago.

Sahel Kazemi, Steve McNair’s mistress was only 20 years old.

What kind of personality or temperament does his mistress have?

If she’s emotionally fragile or mentally unstable and your husband tries to leave her, or you won’t put him out so he can be with her, how will she react?

Will she go off the deep end and try to harm him, you, or your children?

Will she try to destroy your house, car, place of business or other personal property?

Is she mean-spirited? Hot-tempered? Vindictive?
If he leaves her, will she try to get back at him in some way?

Does she have a history of violence?
Will she attempt to harm you, your husband, or your children if things don’t go her way?

Do you need to get an order of protection?

What are her motives?

Does she have ulterior motives for getting involved with your husband?

If they work together, is she sleeping with your husband in order to get a promotion or a raise?
If it’s a workplace affair, and things don’t go her way, will she try to get your husband fired?

Will she charge him with sexual harassment on the job?

Is she only out for a fling, for fun and games, a good time?

Or is she in love with your husband, and is doing her best to get him to divorce you and marry her?

What is her financial or economic status?

Is she a freeloader?  Or is she gainfully employed?

Is she a gold digger with a reputation for going after wealthy or prominent men for money, gifts, favors, and whatever else she can get?

Is she looking for a steady meal ticket?
Will she attempt to get pregnant by your husband so she can collect child support?

Is she draining your family finances?
Do you need to take steps to protect your family’s financial assets?

If your husband moves in with her, or decides to divorce you and marry her, will you sue her for alienation of affections?

Does she have enough assets to make such a lawsuit worth your while?

Does she own a home, a business, a car, boat, or property of some kind.?

What kind of reputation does this woman have?

Is she a home wrecker?

Does she have a history of dating married men?

Is she promiscuous? Does she sleep around?
Do your and your husband need to be tested for HIV/AIDS?

The more you know about your husband’s mistress, who she is, and what her motives are, the better equipped you’ll be to deal with the situation.

Fortunately there are easy ways to find out the things you need to know.

How to Check His Mistress Out

In order to check out your husband’s mistress, you need to know her name.
If you don’t already know who she is, there are easy ways to find out.

Check your husband’s cell phone or e-mail account for suspicious or unfamiliar phone numbers or e-mail addresses. Then use a reputable service like www.CheatingSpousePhoneSearch.com  or www.CheatingSpouseEMailSearch.com  to do a reverse search to find out who the phone number and e-mail address belong to.

Once you have her name, you can easily do an online background check. It’s quick, easy, affordable, and can be done from the privacy of your own home. All you need is a computer or laptop with internet access. Unless you tell, no one will know you checked her out.

An online service like www.CheatingSpouseBackgroundCheck.com  will give you access to public records containing any or all of the following information: address, birth date, maiden name, marriages, divorces, relatives, property ownership, personal assets, - business, house, boat, car, court records, personal assets, criminal records, known associates, roommates, neighbors and more. All you need is her name.

If you know your husband is cheating, whether you plan to stay with him, leave him – or even if you’re not sure right now, you need to find out who his mistress is, and check her out.

Your life, your health, your safety, and your finances could be at stake. 

A discreet background check will tell you what kind of person your husband is dealing with, and whether or not you have cause for concern.

*** © copyright 2009 Ruth Houston

Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. She is the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and blogs at Infidelity News and Views.