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People only see what they are prepared to seeRalph Waldo Emerson
One of my pet hates is being in relationships with people who always blame everything that happens to them on external things. Whatever that external thing may be it’s never their responsibility or their fault.
It drives me completely bananas!
Well, sometimes we can get so blinded by other people’s behavior that we lose site of our own! Fortunately we often get the chance to look into the mirror seeing that the frailties we have so expertly placed on others are actually things we can influence if we simply make small changes to our own outlook on life.
I have learnt that people I attract into my life are a part of my life because I choose to have them in my life. If they do not give me what I need in a relationship and I find myself replaying old patterns over and over again it is I who has to take a deep breath and look at myself! Why am I attracting the same people, over and over again? Why am I attracting people that abuse my trust? Why am I attracting people that disrespect me? Why am I attracting people that say one thing and do another?
Instead of complaining about their behavior I have learnt to look at my conscious and unconscious traits and to understand my role in these destructive dynamics.
I am fed up of attracting people into my world that do not respect my time and my friendship. Today I stand up and say, ‘It is my responsibility to invite a different crowd of people into my world.’
Blaming other people for the way they treat me is a dead end path. If I want things to change I must change. I must take responsibility for all my choices.
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